Post # 1
At this point, I am having two bridal showers thrown for me. One is by my sister (MOH), and another by one of my FI’s aunts. The one my sister is throwing is scheduled for August 30, and the other one is TBD (if it even happens, which is fine).
If his aunt does throw one, it will be for all of the females on his side of the family, as well as their family friends. For the one my sister is throwing, it’s females from my side of the family, as well as my friends.
Besides my FSIL (she is a BM), and my FMIL, she is wondering if my FI’s grandma to it, since she will be invited to the other one anyway. She lives 45 minutes from where we’re having it, and my FMIL could easily bring her up with her… so that’s not a problem. I told her that I didn’t know, and nothing I have found online has advised if that’s right or wrong with having 2 parties, and one that she will be invited to.
Post # 2
I had multiple showers but I did not invite the same guests to the showers. I think that it is weird to invite people twice as they feel like they need to give a gift twice. If you are inviting different guests then there is no reason why you shouldnt have two showers. Sometimes its easier to have two parties than to have one giant one.
Post # 3
The topic was hard to put, as really the only people who would be invited to both would be my mom, FSIL, FMIL and me. Which that information I confirmed, although gifts are only necessary for one.
I just don’t know the etiquette for anyone other than that, or haven’t found it yet… like if his Grandma would be invited to both, or just the one for their side, since she lives somewhat close.
Post # 4
Kacie209: Nothing wrong with two showers since that is a choice made by the hosts (if they want to throw you a party), not the bride, but I don’t see any reason for any overlap invitees at all.
The posts we’re a twee confusing, but it sounded like an aunt needed a ride? Or something to that effect? If so, I would say, yes, of course your mom or MIL or whoever can attend and give that person a ride, but I would make sure the host specifies that they do not need to bring a second gift or attend both. Still I don’t see the need for several people to come to both showers? They can just come to whichever one they give the ride to, right? Not sure why it would be necessary for MIL, FSIL, Etc…to give up two diff weekends/days for the same event. Perhaps I am missing something…