- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
First: RSVPs. Age old complaint, I know. But our deadline was Feb. 19th. We have received a total of THREE cards back. THREE out of close to 50 invited.
second: my mom. Text message earlier: “You are going to stress yourself out so much that you will have a heart attack and not even BE at your own wedding. You have to stop this. I will help any way I can.”
Me: “Mom, stuff HAS to be done and there is no getting around it. Most of my DIY stuff is being done that way to save money. It’s budgetary.”
So yeah, I am almost 40 years old. Second marriage, first “wedding”. I have never asked for a penny towards the wedding and would not do so regardless, but you know, she knows that much of my stress is directly related to the tight budget. She knows that if we COULD do so legally we’d be marrying in our town and saving at least $4,000 that way as most of our budget is travel related.
So she could offer! I am not expecting her to but this is the third time she’s said she’ll “help any way” she can and she lives about an hour away one way, so obviously it’s not practical for her to take over with DIY projects. Not that she has the time for that anyway!! And she DOES have the ability to help out financially, even if it’s just paying for dress alterations…or my hair.. or something like that.
Ok so now I sound like a selfish brat bridezilla, but I don’t know how else to feel. I was married before, courthouse wedding, she never spent a penny on that. She had ONE daughter. Neither she nor my father (deceased now, but not when I married the 1st time) had any “typical” expenses when I married the first time. Neither of them paid for any of my college education (which I am still working on)….so…. yeah. And they did, however, shell out a crapload in legal fees for my jailbird brother!
I just wish she’d stop saying that because there is no other practical way for her to help.