Post # 1
I am considering hvaing two wedding bands if we choose the round halo, with pave diamonds on the band, as I love the way it looks. Gorgeous.
My FI-to-be and I have discussed this and he is fine with it, he thinks it is “perfect”. I also suggested that we make one the ‘wedding band’ and the other could be his wedding gift to me, he also liked this idea, but wants to pick a surprise for me as the wedding gift, so said to just have two wedding bands.
I have been deciding what style of band I like and so showed a picture of the set that I like to a very close friend. She said “Wow two wedding bands. Why two?” I replyed that I like the look of the two bands (one either side of the e-ring). She said “A wedding band is a symbol of the bond between you and (insert Fi-to-be’s name) and your promise to spend your lives together. You wear it on your left ring finger because there is a vein that leads straight to your heart”, obviously, my reply was “I know that…” and she asked “But you still want two because it looks better?” I told her that I like the way to look/feel etc and that “having two is pretty, so why not? (insert FI-to-be’s name) doesn’t mind. So I will have two. If he didn’t like it or something, then I wouldn’t.” She then said (!) “So do I. But I like what a wedding band symbolises more.” I simply replyed “My wedding band will still symbolise that…Just because I’ll have two doesn’t mean that I don’t love (insert FI-to-be’s name here) or want to be with him forever.” Then I signed off and went to have dinner 🙂
So I ask you: What is your opinion on two wedding bands? Do you think less of a woman wearing two? Or have an opinion on her marriage/love for her husband?
Her comments have just really bothered me.
Thanks Bee’s, Lola.
Post # 3
Why two weddings bands? Why not? The more diamonds you can fit on your pretty little finger the better. It has absolutely no bearing on your love or relationship, that is absurd.
I have two wedding bands and I love how it looks. To me it looks more balanced and complete. My DH did say at first and I quote “now you are just being greedy.” But once he saw it with two he agreed it looked “perfect” to quote you.
Don’t fret this isn’t about anyone but you and your FI. Period.
Post # 4
I think it symoblizes the same thing whether you get two bands, one band, a guard, wrap, whatever. The rest is just aesthetics.
I will be having one plain band (no stones) because that will be easier to wear to work without my e-ring when I need to wear gloves everyday. I also like the look of a plain band, and since my center stone is a white sapphire, I wouldn’t want a diamond band to outshine it, and I couldn’t find a white sapphire band that I liked.
Plus I wanted something mismatched, which I got! It should be arriving via fedex tomorrow so YAY!!
Post # 5
someone told me that a wedding band should not have stones in because its back luck to “interrupt” the ring
also in russia people don’t have e-rings and wear their wedding bands on their right hand and only widowers wear the band on their left
im having two bands, with diamonds, on my left hand
i don’t care what people say, i like to think of the two wedding bands hugging the e-ring from both sides, sort of sealing it, and which hand it does not matter, i chose left because thats how people wear it here and its about showing that im taken
Post # 6
I considered having two matching bands in addition to my ering. However, like your friend, I thought people might think it is weird that I have two wedding bands, plus I couldn’t figure out the logistics of having him slip on two. So I decided to hold off on the second one and will likely make it a push gift (with maybe a little diamond inside to differentiate it from the other one) so it will be a stack of rings from several milestones in my/our life.
Post # 7
The two-band option is getting really popular, based on the threads on this board. Lots of women love that look. What’s most important is your love and commitment to each other. Any physical symbol is totally up to you! Wear your wedding rings as you wish 🙂
Post # 8
I have a little bit of an OCD……so with only one wedding band, it looks uneven. I already talked to the soon to be FI and he thought it would look pretty with two. It fixes my uneven thoughts! Haha.
Post # 9
I love the look of two bands! I’m actually talking my DH into getting me a second band 😉 We’ve been married almost 6 months, and I told him for our first anniversary I would really love a second band! We just went this past weekend to try on the second band and see how it looks, and I loved it so much, honestly I don’t think I can wait 6 months, I’m hoping he’ll give it to me as a just because gift, but we’ll see =)
Post # 10
I like the symmetrical look so I wear two bands, one on either side of my e-ring. One is my wedding band, and for our first anniversary I got a matching one made (so I guess technically I wear a wedding band and an anniversary band?). Anyway I think it’s weird for someone to hassle you over wearing two. Your finger? Your choice 🙂
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I have 2! I get lots of compliments on the stacked look:
Post # 12
@Lily-Grace202: im having 2! one blingy one in yellow gold I got from etsy. another is a plain rose gold band that will be made from the same metal mixture of rose gold and other golds as my FI’s wedding band 🙂
ETA: and im not planning onw earing my engagement ring with them…just the bands.
Post # 12
Lily-Grace202: I was thinking of the same thing! Did you end up with two bands? could you post a photo?
Post # 13
I dont agree with or understand her take on it at all. What she must think of women who use their engagement ring as their wedding band! For me I like having two bands because I like symmetry. Tell her you’re doubly committed, and that’s why you want two. 😉
here are mine:
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Post # 14
Btw… the vein leading directly t the heart thing is an old myth.
Post # 15
My engagement ring actually looks like it has 2 bands.. but its just one ring. My wedding band fits between them.
Who cares what anyone else thinks?