- 9 years ago
- Wedding: March 2010
WARNING: Long post ahead. But much help is needed, so read on!
I found out yesterday that my time as a Miss Bee may be drastically shortened.
My FI has had his master’s for a year now and can’t find a job as a teacher at a high school or college because of the economy, teacher layoffs, etc. He heard from a friend of his that Louisiana is hiring people with master’s degrees and paying them a good deal of money (and allowing them to teach the way they want to teach…this is good for my maverick of a FI, haha!). It sounds like a really good opportunity.
So he talked to me about it and we decided to go for it. The kicker is…I want to be married to him before we go. The thing is, instead of our peaceful planning for a wedding next March, we’d have to bump the date up to August, or even late July. ACK! We have the money for it, that’s not the issue- it’s the timing.
So I have two options.
Option #1- Move everything up and have our grand wedding in August. There are two serious problems with this idea though…first, that my side of the family lives across the country and the wedding will be in Orlando (because ALL of his family lives there and his family is much bigger than mine), so that would severely limit the amount of time my side of the family has to save for plane tickets, hotels, etc. Second, we wouldn’t even know if he got the job until around June or even early July, so that is DEFINITELY not enough time for us to plan the kind of wedding we want, not to mention send out invites and give people time to plan.
Option #2- Have a quiet wedding with our immediate families in August. It would be very informal and we’d just have a nice dinner afterwards. I do desperately want a "real" wedding like we’ve been planning, though.
Here’s my etiquette-related question. If I go for option #2, can I still have a wedding and reception in March? I don’t just want a reception…I want to have a wedding with the lovely dress, the walk down the aisle, and for my sisters and cousin to be my bridesmaids- I want to get married in front of ALL of our family and make those promises to my FI. Could I possibly send out some kind of Save-the-Date that says that we got married, but we’d like to make those vows in front of everyone in March?
I’m just not sure how to word that exactly. I don’t want it to be graceless or offensive! I just need a bit of hive help on how to tackle this issue.