Post # 1
My FI and I are graduate students planning a budget-friendly, small (30 people) outdoor wedding in the woods with a picnic reception by a lake (complete with kite flying!). We’ll have a welcome dinner for everyone Thursday night at a restaurant (half the guests, who I haven’t seen in a year, are flying into town). On Friday we’ll have the ceremony/reception, and then FI and I will be on our way to a weekend getaway, and our guests will be able to explore the area on Saturday.
We originally wanted to get married over spring break (in March), but FI’s sister lives with him and she didn’t want to move out during that time. (I live in my own apartment.) We then compromised and decided to get married a month later, in April.
Now his sister told us she’s moving out the end of this week.
FI and I would still love to get married during spring break…it will be spring, we’d have time off for a week-long honeymoon, and it would save me a month of rent/utilities.
We’re now thinking of having a very small ceremony (just the pastor, photographer, FI and I) in March and then celebrate with everyone in April.
I’d love to know your thoughts: if you were a guest, would you like to see “the real ceremony”? Would you rather have the whole weekend to celebrate with the new couple? Have you done something similar to this yourself?
Thanks so much, ladies!
Post # 3
Can you move in with him a month early but save the wedding for April?
Post # 4
@daydreamwanderer No, I’m not going to live with him until we’re married. It was a good suggestion, though, and would solve our problems! : )
Post # 5
It depends on what your circle would think.
Personally, in my circle, it wouldn’t matter to them if we did it a month ahead or 6 months ahead and then celebrated at a later time.
Post # 6
@BrightYellowGaloshes: I wondered, since it seemed like an obvious suggestion 😉
I think if it were a longer period of time, like six months or a year, it would be one thing, but a month is realistically a very short time (at least from a guest perspective).
I would hold off, if I were you – afterall, you’ve already budgeted and planned for the extra month, and getting married now would mean rushing to move, pack, transition, everything.
Post # 7
that’s what I’m doing! I’m married already, and the “public” ceremony will be this august.
but we got married early for insurance reasons, and we’ll have been married for about 10 months by the time the ceremony comes around.
we’re going to work with our officiant so that the wording of the ceremony is just right. for example, he won’t say “I pronounce you man and wife” because that wouldn’t necessarily be true.
Post # 8
Personally? I’d just wait–it’s not that much longer!