Post # 1
So my FI and I decided to get married in Jamaica next year and we are already committed to the resort and so is our wedding party.
Up until last week my family hadn’t even met my FI but we went over unannounced and forced the meeting (it is a long story). Anyways they actually showed interest in coming to the wedding until they found out it was a destination wedding and now they are on the fence about it.
We are planning on having a reception here when we get back from the wedding but now I am thinking that we could choose a venue that we could do a quick ceremony in front of those who were unable to make the trip to Jamaica with us followed by the reception in the same location. So kind of like 2 wedding ceremonies. Of course by no means would the second wedding be over the top because I am putting most of my wedding finances into our desitination wedding to make sure it is a trip to remember.
So what are thoughts on having two wedding ceremonies? Has anyone done it or decided against it and why?
Post # 3
@PrettyInInk_85: This is a dumb question, but have you checked into the requirements for getting a marriage certificate in Jamaica? A LOT of DW brides I’ve seen/read about get the legalities over with State-side (or whatever country they live in) and then have the “wedding” at their destination.
You could also do it that way: have the parents go with you to the courthouse (unless they’re like VA and give you a list of people to call who can perform the marriage and then go to wherever THEY are) and then just not tell anyone (swear the parents to secrecy) until AFTER the DW.
Call it a “technicality” if anyone says or asks anything…. the paperwork had to be filed here, and your parents went with you to do it…
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
We almost did this exact thing. We thought about doing a blessing ceremony back home but in the end people really just wanted to see my dress and party the night away. 😉
Post # 5
@PrettyInInk_85: Ditto what Ryna said. You will probably have to JOP it anyways before having the wedding in Jamaica. You could do a family only dinner afterwards as a small reception.
Post # 6
FYI, i got legally married in Jamaica and it was easy as can be. i only had to be there 48 hours before the ceremony and give a copy of our birth certificates.
and i think its fine to do 2 ceremonies. but if your dream is the DW, then i think getting legally married there makes it all the more special – at least it did for me.
Post # 7
Yeah I actually don’t have to do a JOP thing here in the states first. But also I really want it to be meaningful to them just as much as my wedding is to myself, and going into a courtroom and swapping some I dos in front of a judge doesn’t scream special to me really – not saying that it isn’t to those who choose that route – but I amways saw something more elaborate.
I think what we have decided is to have a friend film the ceremony in Jamaica and have a big reception, and at the beginning of the reception before, my then husband, and I arrive have it played on a projector, and then have us announced and all for our entrance and jazz and pretty much have the traditional reception that those have after their weddings when they don’t go DW and do it at a traditional church.
Post # 8
Update – after my fiance and I went to look at some venues for the wedding reception we had a discussion. We have had to make some sacrifices when deciding with a DW, such as his younger brother being unable to be in the wedding party cause he is a teenager and wasn’t able to come to Jamaica – So we are holding a quick ceremony at the reception location and adding his brother, my sister, and allowing our nieces & nephews to be in the second wedding followed by a big blowout of a party!
I am not looking forward to the extra finances of adding this celebration, it negates my whole original reason for doing DW, but I am excited to have two ceremonies and getting the best of both worlds. A private secluded wedding with our close family and friends followed by a big ceremony with everyone and their dog!
Post # 9
@PrettyInInk_85: My friend is doing THIS EXACT THING!!!! She married here, among all her friends and very little family (oh here meaning AZ)… now in October she is going to have a HUGE Reception in chicago, with her family and stuff and do that exact same thing. Have the video played, then the dj introduce them.
That is such a cool idea I thought…
So maybe this is an option?