(Closed) Two weddings a year apart..

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: Making up for having no family at the wedding by having a family only reception a year later..
    Good idea : (15 votes)
    28 %
    Bad idea : (13 votes)
    25 %
    It won't be the same for them. : (11 votes)
    21 %
    Who cares it's your decision anyway? : (14 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Why not have an anniversary party instead of a “wedding”?

    you made the decision to have no family, nothing will ever change that. I think trying to recreate that day will only serve as a reminder that you didn’t include them. If I were your family, I might almost feel offended that you would expect them to rally and celebrate a recreation of a wedding after not including them at the real one.

    an anniversary party would still be a celebration of your marriage.

    Post # 4
    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @PinkPinstripes:  She never mentioned a wedding ceremony.  Just a reception and photographs.  The definition a reception being an official “recieving” of the couple, does not refer to a specific time frame and as the family has not “recieved” them yet, a reception does not seem out of line.  And it seems like it was her family’s idea to begin with.  All signs point to go

    Post # 6
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @PamelaBrit:  I get where you’re coming from but a reception is a party, so it’s essentially an anniversary party. I just don’t get “recreating” it if you chose to have it a certain way. I would understand the logic of a recreation if there had been some extenuating circumstance that prevented them from having a wedding originally the way they wanted,

    the OP asked for opinions, that’s my opinion. 

    OP- you should ultimately do whatever makes you and your husband happy.

    Post # 8
    28 posts
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Just wanted to say my husband and I got married just the two of us on the beach. Since our friends and family were not able to be there we are having a “celebration of love” on our one year anniversary. For some family members vow renewals are not appropriate so we will not re-read them, but they will be printed and displayed with photos from our beach wedding. I am wearing a wedding dress, he will be wearing a suit, my dad is walking me down the isle, ect. It could still be a celebration of your love or anniversary celebration. I think you can still wear your dress and even if you guys want to say your same vows or just reflections of your love for each other over all or from the last year. You don’t have to do a full ceremony but make it where it works for both sides. 

    Post # 9
    188 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I voted Good Idea, but I am struggling with a similar dilemma right now.

    We want to get married soon for techical reasons, but we cannot pull off a wedding with this short notice as my family lives in Europe. So we’re toyin gwith the idea to just get married in the courthouse and have our nice wedding with families Sept 2013.

    I think if your family is on board, why not? They clearly want to celebrate with you, so I say go for it!

    Post # 10
    7 posts
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Go for it! Everyone loves a party. And that dress is an excellent choice.

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