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Not a good idea. People will NOT be happy if they find out that they're pretty much attending a 'farce' wedding. Your officiant might not even marry you, since you'd already be married.
Instead, why not have a poem read or light a candle in honor of your grandmother?
I like the idea, and I think it's really sweet that you want to honour your grandma this way, but I think people would be kind of turned off when they arrive at a wedding and then it's announced that you essentially had a wedding 5 days earlier. Why not just plan to get legally married on the 10th and have a quiet dinner celebrating it with family but without too much fanfare, and then have a "commitment ceremony" and wedding reception on the 15th for all the rest of your guests?
My FI and I have to get legally married 5 days before our wedding due to circumstances we can't control... but we're not celebrating it at all. For us, it is the religious ceremony that is the important one and when we truly become husband and wife. What you are doing here is having two whole wedding celebrations, one of which is rather exclusive (only close family), and you are keeping it secret until the day of, which I do not think people would appreciate.
@futuremrsfitz18: yeah, its probably not, we are have her picture up at the reception with her favorite flower
ok, i can tell you about my friend, different circumstances but what she did may help you?
My friend was planning her wedding last year and there was a misunderstanding between her and the venue, the venue thought she was booking the officiant, and she thought the venue was booking one. So she ended up with the hotel, dress, flower, photographer, make up artist etc etc booked for one date, and no officiant to carry out the ceremony, and by the time this misunderstanding came to light, she could not find an officiant who would be able to be booked for the date she had booked everything else for.
the solution? she got married at the registry office with only immediate family there 2 weeks before the 'official' wedding date and booked someone to renew their wedding vows on the 'official' date. she didnt tell the other guests that her and her partner had already got married, and if you had not known they were already married, from the ceremony itself, you wouldnt have ever known!
so now she has 2 anniversaries, the first is one that only her and her husband celebrate together, and the second which everyone else knows about.
i dont know if this helps you in anyway, but its always an option if you have your heart set of being wed in rememberance of you Granny.
@hellsbells2949: Your friend must of been so upset but I'm glad everything worked out. Thanks for the advice, I just going to have one wedding date. There is too much already for one wedding lol
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Before I was engaged I wanted 9.10.11 date, But since that day has come and gone I'm still planning a September wedding but on the 15th. For some reason after my grandmother died in 2010 I found out her and my grandparents wedding date. September 10th. I truly wanted that date but never got engaged until November 2011. {My parents are divorced and we rarely saw my dads side only at Christmas} So that's probably why I never knew their date.
So what I'm saying from the title was to also get married on the 10th in remembrance of my Grammy. I was thinking to have just immediate family members and bridal party(20 ppl) BUT to tell no one and make our guests think it it our rehersal dinner but SURPRISE!! we are getting married instead. We would tell our parents and no one else.
For everyone else we would still have our Sept. 15th wedding for everyone else. I figured we could do most of our photos before then go the reception.
But how would I tell my guests are the 2nd wedding we are already married. I thought maybe the officient could somehow say something.??
what do ladies think about this???