Post # 1
So, a little back story. I am currently looking for a teaching job and have an interview coming up. I don’t know how it is in other states but teachers and other state employees in DE get some nice health benefits for themselves and their spouses and families. Well, this got me thinking. My FI currently doesn’t have insurance (even though he is employed — I know. He’s a total procrastinator) and had some health issues come up. I know getting insurance won’t pay for what he’s already had done, but it will help him in the future.
Anyways, in order for FI to get my benefits, we have to be married. We aren’t planning to have our wedding until summer of 2016 but we talked and said that if I get a job before he can sign up for insurance, that we would consider getting married in the courthouse and then having another wedding when we can afford it, with about 120 people. Would it be weird to celebrate a wedding 1 or 2 years after we are legally married?
this is a totally hypothetical situation, but I would like to hear some of your experiences in case it does become my reality. I know it’s all about marrying FI but I never thought about being already married on my wedding day! I’m not THAT bothered by it, just curious if any other bees have done anything like this!
Post # 2
MrsBrew: Couples in the military sometimes have to have a civil wedding to get benefits, then have their “wedding” later. Not usually 2 years later though.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
I don’t see anything wrong with at all. You want to be married so why not have a civil ceremony now to get the insurance ball rolling. You can always have a party or a “wedding” down the line- perhaps even as an anniversary celebration. We’re actually in the process of canceling our big wedding because of unexpected medical bills and were going to elope. the wedding can always be had later.
Post # 4
Well… My reasons are somewhat different. We are both in the process of getting a master’s in the US as non-US citizens. We were planning to get married afterwards back in our country, but if one of us gets a job here, we don’t want to be split up, so it was best for us to do this WHILE studying.
So… we’re both students on a student’s budget (and tuition is even worse for internationals)
We initially planned to have a little ceremony here and then travel back home. But we realized that marriage is about well… being married for good and bad and to face life as it comes when it comes and making the best of each moment… Therefore, re-enacting our wedding for a larger crowd after being already married felt… well… awkward and unnecessary.
So our December wedding will be the only one. It will be a small 70-person wedding in a nice little hotel back home with a patio and a pergola. Just us and our loved ones celebrating the fact that we will be sharing our lives from now on.
Don’t know if it’s the answer you were looking for, but that’s how we decided things 🙂