- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Please tell me I’m not nuts and any words of advice would be appreciated. Warning: Long rant… We are too weeks from the wedding – Work is crazy, wedding stuff is busy, and right now FI’s family trying my patience. For the most part I get along with FI’s family except the fact that FI’s parent’s are completely socially akward and his sister has ‘issues’ she is refusing deal with. Patience is a most dealing with FI’s family.
FI’s parent’s are a generation older than mine because he is 8yrs older than I am and his parent’s were in their 40’s when they had him. FI’s mother also has alzhemier’s making things challenging some days. Couple that in with social akwardness (FI and his brother have had to teach themselves social skills and have done well) and well it can be a bit much. Last week, I tried to take FI’s mom shopping for something nice to wear to the wedding. Epic fail… FI’s dad did not want her to get anything new to wear. Instead the entire time she walked behind me to follow and would not try on anything. Her highlight was a hometown ice cream shop that we found on the way home. She is a sweet lady but a shopping excursion like his is challenging. Come today, we were talking about schedule and Daniel’s sister (see below). They request that they want God Bless america by a specific artist played at the reception. What?! No. This is not a wedding approriate song and they are going to be told the DJ doesn’t have that version. But, I feel guilty not honoring their request. (FI, myself and my parents are paying for the wedding).
On to FI’s sister, a few weeks ago she was forcibly committed to a psych ward and is now back home somewhat living on her own. She has some mental issues but refuses to continue counseling (missed her follow ups the last 2 wks) or medication based treatments to work through her issues. In the past, her behavior basically results in an adult temper tantrum to seek attention. Because she is family, she is still invited to the wedding but does not drive. Our venue is a rural vineyard 30 miles from town. FI’s parents are going to have enough on their plate, regardless of trying to make sure she gets there and home. FI and I have been pegged as the figure out a way to get her to the venue. Right now, it is looking like a $200 roundtrip cab ride that Fiance and I are going to foot as the other two brothers are either involved in the wedding related festivities or have other personal responsiblities (that is another story entirely). We really want to enjoy the day but part of me is going to worry about her throwing a tantrum the entire time…
Thanks for reading hive. I really just needed to vent.