Post # 1
I’ve organised my wedding in 3 months so finding a dress was quite stressful as I had to buy one already in the shop and have that altered. It took me a while to find a dress I even vaguely liked and eventually chose a dress that’s the complete opposite to what I thought I wanted. It’s strapless, corset, lace and has sparkles. I chose it because when I first tried it on I felt amazing and didn’t want to take it off and I hadn’t felt that way about any other dress.
On my first fitting I really didn’t like the dress but hoped it was down to the dress not fitting me correctly. The next and final fittings were the same to the extent that I couldn’t look at kyself in the mirror and wanted to get the dress off as quickly as possible.
I like the dress but I don’t like it on me. My mum tells me I look beautiful in it but I feel fat, unattractive and uncomfortable. I don’t understand what happened given how much I loved it at first but here I am 2 weeks before my wedding with a dress I hate.
I haven’t posted pictures because the problem is how I feel rather than the dress so it wouldn’t be fixed by changing the belt or the neckline or something.
People tell me that it’ll all come together once I have my hair and make-up etc but I’m scared that it won’t and I’ll end up feeling rubbish on a day when I’m meant to feel fantastic.
So I’m posting (and thank you if you’ve read this far!) because I wondered if anyone had been in the same situation and what you did.
Thanks for your help
EDIT- photo added as requested but I trust my mum’s judgment-she was very clear when she didn’t think a dress suited me! I “just” need to sort out my head or find an alternative solution and I’d like to know what others have done.
Sorry the photo is so massive – I’m struggling to resize on my phone
Post # 3
You should post a picture so we can reassure you! Or give suggestions. I totally understand this. As someone who’s top heavy, I’ve cursed wedding dresses I’ve tried on because they look too cleavagey, I feel uncomfortable, etc. Remember you loved it once and remember it will work out. I’m sure it will all come together when you are all set up! And your FI and family will find you beautiful no matter what.
Post # 4
@Meee: Post a picture! I think it would help to have bees tell you what they think of the dress
Plus, what you see in the mirror, and how it photographs after you’ve been all done up and the photographer edits things, may be two completely different things
Post # 5
@Meee: Yeah, post a pic. It’s probably just pre-wedding jitters and stress.
Post # 6
Of course it will come together. My sister got her hair done for her confirmation – we were both being confirmed, so we went to the salon together. She got her hair done and I thought it looked absolutely ridiculous. Like… ridiculous. My older sister agreed, I later found out. I thought it was big, and poofy, and stupid. I didn’t say anything, of course, and my sister was beaming, so what difference did it make if I liked it? Anyway, when she put on her dress, suddenly her hair looked fantastic! It was a matter of all the parts coming together.
Another example – Here is an early picture wen I was assembling my wedding fit, and trying different things. Several pieces are substtutes for the ones I had not acquired yet:
And here are several different ties with my wedding fit. You’ll see what a difference one detail makes.
And here is how I looked on the day, with everything assembled properly, including how nicely my barber combed my hair:
Post # 7
That dress is very pretty. The beaded lace is fantastic and it shows you’re waist going in beautifully. The neckline makes you look like you have the most perfect bust.
But.. what matters most is you loving it and feeling beautiful. Any chance you can go dress shopping asap and find another sample to buy? My friend changed her dress 4 days before her wedding.
Post # 8
When I made my last post, your picture wasn’t up yet. You look beautiful. Since I’m on the subject of neckwear, I think a necklace would be lovely (but not necessary) with that dress. You are correct that the hasty pony tail isn’t the best look with that dress 😉
Post # 9
Your dress looks beautiful on you and others are right that when it all comes together on the day (hair, makeup, accessories) you’ll feel different. Also, have you thought about adding a slip or crinoline to the dress to poof out the bottom? That will also make a difference and balance out top to bottom.
Post # 10
@Meee: That is a lovely dress and it does so flatter you. Have you tried putting a little crinoline underneath to see if a little poof would make you love it more? 2 weeks out, I’m not sure there’s anything you can do in terms of getting a new dress, but you certainly do not look horrible in that dress.
Post # 11
you don’t look horrible! I think it just needs to be taken in a bit more at the waist. But you look great! Its an overwhemling feeling planning everything and you are probably just stressed.
Post # 12
@Meee: Dress looks great! I would consider a thicker, plain sash but around your waistline-accentuate your curves!
Post # 13
@Meee: I think it is beautiful, it does look slightly big on you though, does the corset go any tighter?
I had dress regret…and I don’t reccomend it especiallynot that close to your big day unless you can find a cheap alternative. Granted I loved my second dress even more , but I spent a lot of $ on it that I think I could have saved had I just altered the first one (possibly as I never actualy asked a seamstress).
ETA: I do think if it was more fitted around your mid section it would look better though. If a dress does not fit properly it will MAKE you feel yucky/frumpy…I would take it to a seamstress and have the side seams taken in to show your curves a little more 😉
Post # 14
@Meee: is there any chance you could remove the belt? I think a sash or belt at the natural waist, instead of the empire waist where it is now, would be so much more flattering.
I also feel that lowering the neckline so it’s more of a sweetheart would help, as would poofing out the skirt slightly more. And I agree with the others that it still looks like it needs to be altered more, as it’s still a bit too big for you.
Post # 15
I agree with PP about the dress looking like it doesn’t fit as snug as it should. And with removing the belt and replacing it with something else lower down. The dress is beautiful but it does need a little work to get it working for you. Simple things though, not a complete overhaul. 🙂
It’s a very beautiful dress and I think that taking it in a little bit and finding a complementary belt at your natural waist line will completely change how you see yourself in the dress.
Post # 16
See if your seamstress can add some crinoline to give it more shape at the bottom. I’ve noticed that even dresses with a slight flare at the bottom (not even a crazy mermaid) look more flattering and just seem to give the wearer more of a shape. And you mention it being strapless- why not add some lovely lace cap sleevse or off-the-shoulder sleeves? It would look so romantic!