Post # 1
Was anyone else super on edge before the wedding? I’m a pretty emotional person as it is and I’m so excited/happy/anxious/worried/and so on its alot sometimes with the wedding being so close. Everyone keeps telling me ‘relax, relax everything is going to be fine,’ ‘even if something goes wrong it, at the end of the day the important thing is you are married’ ‘don’t worry everything will be beautiful, just chill’ blah blah blah blah blah. I can not relax. The more they say it I almost stop believing them.
Anyone one have the same problem or suggestions?
Post # 3
Haha I have the same problem, although nothing wedding related yet, people are always telling me to ‘calm down’ or ‘relax’, ‘don’t worry’, ‘don’t stress’. So I don’t have much advice sorry! The best I can offer is: is there a TV show, movie, or book you always get absorbed by? If so read or watch that in times of stress to draw your attention away from the stress. Make a to do list daily for what you need to get done, ticking things off feels great!
Post # 4
I agree for sure, that the more people say stuff like that the less it means. My only offer is what I’m currently doing at 2 months out to calm myself down. For me it’s writing out what’s left to do properly so I can see it. For you, perhaps you could try noting out the things that are worrying you. Is there a contingency you can put in place, someone you can tell so they can keep an eye out for you etc.
If you write everything out and there’s nothing you can immediately do to help with the worries, at least they’re out of your system and you might be able to put them a bit further out of your mind while you try to relax. Good luck!
Post # 5
I would get off of weddingbee (since its wedding related), sit down, make a list of whatever you are worried about so its out of your head, and pack for your honeymoon, clean your house, read a book, grab lunch with friends. The more you dwell on it, the more you will obsess. I hope you find mental peace! 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
take a spa day with your girls 🙂 plan for your bachelorette part or hve lunch with your FI with no talk to the wedding. write down a list of what needs to be done and their deadline and try to divide each task on the following days 🙂 good luck
Post # 7
Just accept that you probably won’t be able to relax till after the wedding. It’s all a matter of perception. I’ve been married 3 months now and remember the lead up to the wedding vividly.
I read a fantastic post Nona99 wrote for a bride who was so nervous about the wedding being so close (just like you). Nona99 gave this bride such a great piece of advice I printed it and read it everyday till the wedding. It really helped.
THIS happens…I think the longer you have to anticipate and plan, the greater the tide of unruly emotions that comes in when you finally get to that fabled day….I mean honestly, have you ever put so much thought, money, time, energy and hope into anything before in your life?
That’s going to get to a person, no matter how calm and collected they may be.
Time to trust that you’ve planned everything to the point that you can’t plan anymore, and switch your focus from anticipation, to being in the moment, enjoying the experiences and people that surround you and relinquishing the control….time to become, a bride.
Post # 8
Drink lots, and lots of decaf green tea.
Post # 10
Thanks girls! I did a little of everything and Im so at peace 🙂 My fiance went and bought me a big white board so I wrote everything I need done and everytime something pops in my head I write it there and stop obessing. I’m drinking tea, Im making lunch dates with friends, and reading and its really helping. I feel so much better right now, just excited 🙂