(Closed) Tying SO to the bedpost tonight.

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

haha love it!….only commenting to get some ideas myself;)

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

All I gotta say is, a blindfold is a must 😉 

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Helper bee

A blindfold might be a bit much for a first time if your already taking away the power of movement, I’d suggest something gentle for ties, stockings, silk scarves etc and ensure you have a safe word agreed in advance just in case he doesn’t enjoy it and needs you to release him.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i have never done it….so interested to find out more..

Post # 9
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Helper bee

@princesslettuce14:  Oh in that case if it’s not the first time then definitely a blindfold, it heightens all the other sense, so once bound and blindfolded then use different textures and heats to stimulate him: velvet, lace, feather, ice or ice cubes, hot tea etc

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Ice cubes and feathers, definitely.  I used to have a pair of velvet gloves that would work well for this kind of thing, too.  Texture play will be marvellous.  Be careful with silk for restraints — it will keep tightening if he pulls against it, so be aware of your knots.  I know you’ve done it before, but this is my standard PSA, every time.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@GIJen:  I was gonna suggest this… use your mouth on him, but do it sort of teasing, alternate sucking on ice cubes and hot water/tea before different moments. 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You could go all fifty shades and put headphones in him so he can’t hear you moving around and has no idea what’s coming next? that will REALLY heighten his sense of touch

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Blushing bee

Since this isn’t your first rodeo I’ll toss out some more unique ideas. You could start with a little shibari, create a pose that slightly suggestive and easy for a first time like: arms behind back, him on knees or if he’s not too flexible, arms front legs crossed with ties linking his arms, feet and neck. You can find a pattern online or experiment and create your own together over time.

Adding special ties really ramps up bondage play to another level, being so close and intimate yet still unable to touch is a powerful thing and once he’s positioned and tied, you’ve got more than his peripheral view to work with when you bring out the next treat. No need for blindfolds, just park your tray out of his line of sight.

Warm wax (I recommend soy based candles made for wax play, they don’t heat up too hot and some melt into a great massage oil to boot!) ice and food are mainstays for very good reason and there’s lots of ways to spice them up (there is a vibrator that can be incased in ice, use your favorite fruit juice and it’s suddenly a triple delight!)

If you do use special ties, be sure not to leave him in them too long, positions can get cramped and cords can grow tight or be tighter than you thought at first. I recommend finishing off with a massage, gently working every place that was tied as you undo the bonds, or if you prefer and you use cheaper rope (there are shibari ropes of chasmere that I woulodn’t recommend this with!) use a big, shiny, sharp pair of scissors to free him with. If you go with scissors, make sure you leave enough play in the rope to slide them in without catching his skin (it’s a good idea to keep a pair of scissors nearby anyway, just in case, even if you’re not planning on using them.)

Hope some of those ideas are helpful! Have fun and remember, stay safe, sane, consensual 😉

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