Post # 1
In the poll, I am including travel, hotel, food, and a gift to the wedding couple.
I guess my wedding is a bit of a mini destination for a lot of people. It’s in my hometown so most guests have to take two ferries and will probably sleep overnight at our resort which is $200 a night, so it will probably cost guests $400 in travel and hotel fees (per two people). I feel that this is pretty steep, but if they don’t drive over and they bus instead, and stay at a different hotel than our resort, it will more like $175 per two people.
I am just curious if ours is outrageous or pretty average. It’s a small wedding and if people can’t afford it and don’t show or don’t give a gift, I understand.
Also, how much will your wedding cost guests?
Post # 3
@BrookeBQ: We are trying to keep costs down for our guests, but for my family, there’s potential for it to be around $1000 per person depending on flights. We’re getting a great rate for people on hotels but flights from Newfounland average about $600 return unless you get lucky! Clearly I’m not expecting gifts from my family!
Most weddings, even those that are ‘local’ I usually book a hotel. Unless it’s less than a 10 minute drive I’m not taking a cab, it just gets too costly. FH works for a hotel so we usually get our rooms for $49 (but that would typically be $150), $100 gift, $100 meals day of/day after, plus there’s usually a shower and a bachelorette I’ve gone to. I’ve easily spent $500 on some weddings. The one we’re going to in a couple weeks has cost us $1100 in airfare – but it’s in my hometown and we haven’t been back since we got engaged and I”ve been friends with this girl 17+ years.
Post # 4
We probably spend $750 or less for an in town wedding but $500 of that is a cash gift to the couple. If the venue is within 3hrs drive we will drive home and not stay at a hotel.
Post # 5
@BrookeBQ: including a gift? Or just without one? Ours will be under $250, I think. If they decide to stay in the hotel
That’s without gift
Post # 6
I figured for the weekend stay in NYC, flights, and wedding gift will be $1000 or less for my family.
Post # 7
Our hotel group rate is $100/night. There are plenty of low cost food options nearby and the metro/buses really close so no one needs to rent a car. For our guests who are traveling from other E coast areas and can drive or take the Amtrak train to the wedding, I’m guessing they’ll spend $300-400. For our friends and family that are flying in, I’d say more like $700.
Post # 8
I voted $500 or less, but if it doesn’t require a hotel room it would be less than $250 I think.
Post # 9
Thanks for the responses and voting ladies!
Post # 10
I’m hoping it’s not too bad for our guests. Our hotels are $100-120/night, but most of my family has to fly. So I would hope it would be less than $1000 for them. On the other hand, most of FI’s family is driving, so they won’t be spending nearly as much. It’s an expensive endeavor for everyone, that’s for sure.
Post # 11
@BrookeBQ: That sounds totally fine to me. I’m from BC as well and would love the chance to attend an island wedding – so fun! Guests will have the opportuntiy to wratched the costs/time committment as they so choose. Some may take extra days off and make it a mini-vacation, some may take a sea plane, some may car-pool, some may not come at all.
Unless your group tends to be really tight on time (ferry lines & drives) or really tight on cash, I think this is fine.
Post # 12
@BrookeBQ: I think that seems reasonable 🙂 plus people will probably turn the experience into a fun little mini trip and view it as such.