Post # 1
Nothing out of the ordinary here, but I needed to mini-freakout somewhere…
Working on my estimated guest list with my parents (paying for most of it, but with a budget), and FMIL. Both gave very reasonable guest lists, and I have no disagreements.
However… this whole time, I thought we’d be lucky to have 100 people, and now the list is 150 (including approx 8 kids)!
I don’t want that many people. And I know they said to use a % and that many will decline or whatever, but silly naive me just thinks that won’t happen and everyone will RSVP yes lol…
Ugh! There’s just too many expenses that are ‘per person’ and I don’t want that many persons!!
Post # 3
@kristen182: It’s so true and sometimes almost everyone RSVPs yes! You never know! It’s really hard. I had to set some limits with my parents. Even though they are paying for a large part of the wedding, it’s not fair if all their friends get to come and none of mine, and I think they understood that. However, they were not willing to budge on certain people on the guest list, so I told them that they need to pay for it then, and they were okay with that.
Another bee gave me some great advice on here- if you have to cut people out, cut them out as a group. So, if you decide not to invite a cousin, you really need to not invite any of them. Or you could leave out your group of friends from college, some of those people who are acquaintances. I think if you get it down to 110 you’ll be in good shape.
And don’t forget if you are having a photographer, DJ, or other vendor who needs a meal to include them in your final count!
Post # 4
@nawella: Thanks 🙂 thankfully I have another year and just want price estimates, but I’m hoping (awful lol) that I fall out of contact with my old coworkers, and that way elimate that group completely (approx 12 people!) and good tip with the vendors – i did realize that and i was like “ugh, the downside to having two photos and videogs” lol
Post # 5
Our guest list grew bigger than we planned, too. We trimmed it down, sent out invites, and then what do you know. Got way more “no” RSVPs than expected!
Obviously, it doesn’t always happen that way, but you just never know!
Post # 6
I feel your pain! We were just going over our giant, grand, everyone guest list, and it grew! We’re at 250, and we’re paying ourselves. It’s hard because we have big families (like, lots of aunts, uncles and cousins). I’m definitely working on slashing the numbers. FI is going to have to deal with his half though, I can’t just cut out his people. Ugh.
Post # 7
Same here. We invited 150, but I’m hoping more for 100. Not for cost, but because 100 is plenty. Kevin has a big family, so that’s a majority of the guests! I invited my coworkers, I work in a small office and love them. I was thinking since they would have to ask off and travel, okay they are out, but now there is talk for the office to close that day!!! What!?
Post # 8
It sounds as though we’re in the same boat! We were figuring on 120-130 and it turns out the guest list is about 160*!
*It’s at 160 as some people on the guest list had previously told us they wouldn’t be able to make it, so it was initially higher than 160, but we’ve taken them out of the “count” that we’re using when sending out the invitations.
Honestly, I’m hoping for 100-120, haha.