- Ms Sassy
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
Seriously, it has started already and we haven’t even been “officially” engaged for a week. We made our announcement last Sunday..but that fell flat because his mom had already told EVERYONE! Now if you knew me you would know that I am pretty laid back and not wanting some big ball but I’m afraid that I am turning into a Bridezilla and that’s something I do not want. I want a simple ceremony..5 mins TOPS and a dinner reception at the hotel restaurant since it will be probably less than 20 of attending. I told people they could wear speedos if they wanted to-I just don’t care as long as they are comfortable.
I found out last night that his mom immediately translated this into “This will be an informal wedding so she won’t be wearing a wedding dress” Wrong! I am wearing a dress, it may not technically be a wedding dress but I still need a dress. I was thinking something like a white or light purple (my fav color) bridesmaid dress. My friend runs a local bridal shop and said that she could open the shop for me and my guests to go dress shopping at any time even before or after hours. So I send out an email last night to my mom and FI’s mom about the dress shop and let me know everyone’s schedule.
I get an email back saying that she is booked until the middle of June. Why is she booked until the middle of June…because the day we announced our engagement at Easter she went to work and picked up all extra shifts because of the wedding….that is 8 months away! She seems to think that this going to cost 10’s of thousands of dollars but it’s not. She hardly has to pay for anything. She has a dress already, FI and I are going to either pay for the hotel or the round-trip airfare (whichever is the most expensive we will pay). I think she is used to going to weddings where they do spend money and lots of it. And I also think there might be a control issue going on. Usually she is the one planning and organizing and she’s not in total control so she doesn’t know what to do.
Is planning going to be this much a headache? I thought doing a destination wedding would be fun and easy..show up, have a good time on us. Am I expecting a lot? Am I turning into a Bridezilla? I guess I need a reality check.