- 8 years ago
UGGGGGHHHH! yes, very much like when charlie brown says it.
When my fiance and I first got engaged the first thing a relative of mine said to us was “When do we get our invite?”… not even congratulations first!!!! That was frustrating in itself in the moment but I shrugged it off.
We are having a small wedding on a tiny budget. We have had arguements and solved the guest list and have come up with a great list of close family and friends by going with the rule of “Who has been a part of our 3 year dating relationship, and who can we not picture the wedding day without having them there”… those sort of rules. I love our list. And we have been open and honest with everyone that we are having a small wedding but will be doing an after wedding reception that we intend to invite more people to, as this just works really well for our budget!!!
My family is massive compared to my fiance’s family… we did up a family tree for both sides and displayed it at the wedding, and mine took up a whole poster board, where I could have used just a piece of paper for his. That is how massive my family is… and we didnt even include all of my cousins and aunts on my Mom’s side!!!! Honestly if our families went to battle against each other… we would win! And that is pretty much how I feel right now like I am in a fight against my own family.
Sadly there are a few family riffs on my Dad’s side, it is frustrating and annoying and can drive a person insane by 3pm on Christmas day. Fiance and I agreed that we would not invite people that we knew we were not close with, and have not been really a part of our dating life… more so we would not be inviting people that we knew would cause drama during the wedding.
I have heard from many sources now that my relative is going around venting and whining to others that they are not invited to my wedding. Well no you are not, we have been honest to you about that. And this is part of the reason why, you would find some way to drive me nutz, and everyone else the day of the wedding. I love you you are family. But I am ready to explode and go all bridezilla… which I really do not want to do ever, I have avoided it for almost a year now of being engaged. You know you are welcome and invited to the reception after, which will be having a lot of the same elements as the wedding… so please FOR THE LOVE OF DONUTS stop complaining! Or you will be fully removed from the guest list to anything. UGGGGGGHHHHH!