Post # 1
Omggggg people are driving me crazy. I invited almost 100 people to my wedding. It is in less than 3 weeks. I got back 4 ( YES 4!!!) RSVPs. Seriously, what is wrong with people!!
Then!! When I ask if theyre coming, they say “We dont know yet”. Really??? How can they not know if theyre going to a wedding that is in less than 3 weeks!! AND we only invited family, to top it off!
End of vent, it is just extrememly difficult to make seating arrangements when I dont know whos coming! 🙁
Post # 3
@kjo: People are just rude
Post # 4
That’s so frustrating! When do you have to give the head count to your caterer?
Post # 5
Well I told them 75 adults and 10 children. So far we are exactly at that, if I count the people who dont know yet.
Post # 6
Wow! I could understand if it were a few people, but to have the majority saying that is just crazy! I mean, so say that, you’d need bloody good reason for not knowing (e.g. medical issues). No wonder you need a vent!
I guess just tell them that you need the final numbers for catering purposes ASAP and, if they don’t confirm, you’ll have to assume they’re not coming. The only downside would be people saying they’re coming, then not because they “don’t know yet.”
Post # 7
Dude what? I respend almost instantly to a wedding invite. Make plans to go or not, it’s that simple. Sorry your guests suck at doing that!
Post # 8
Well I can understand some people not knowing because life gets crazy, but if 96 people you invited don’t know, that’s pretty weird.
Post # 9
Ugh, how frustrating! I would definitely tell them they have such and such date to get back to me because I have to tell the caterer. If they try to sneak in a late RSVP, tell them too bad.
Post # 10
It’s like “what do you mean you don’t know? JUST DECIDE AND THEN YOU’LL KNOW.”
Post # 11
Its not 96…100 guests in total were invited. Most people are in families of 4 or more, I sent out about 30 invitations
Im down to about 15 people who “dont know”. But thats hard to do a seating chart lol
FI and I decided if these people decide not to come, we will ask special friends instead. I figured since it was family only, that they wouldnt be so offended at short notice!
Post # 12
It shows an extreme lack of consideration to shrug it off with “We don’t know.” They’ve been given enough notice that the folks who maybe needed to get time off had the time to do so. Are they planning until the week of to see their schedules or something? Odd.
If you don’t feel like going, say so outright and as soon as possible. Don’t wait until the last minute if you already know you probably won’t feel like going (which tends to be the reason behind the majority of “I don’t knows” I hear).
Far fewer are for legitimate reasons – someone’s sick, someone’s going to have surgery around that time, something important came up suddenly at work, etc.
I have an aunt pulling this with me right now. She’s refusing to send back her RSVP. “I don’t know if I’ll go or not…I won’t know until the morning of…” Thankfully, so far, she’s just one person. I strongly suspect she won’t come anyway, but it still ticks me off.
I just wish she’d say, “I’m doing so badly that I probably won’t come, so ‘no.'”
But seriously, OP – what a piece of work to have so many people doing that to you. I’m so sorry.
Post # 13
Did you send out STD’s? I don’t understand why it takes people forever to figure out if they’re going to a wedding either. I can see if they’re coming from out of town and have to figure out if they’ll be able to make the long trip or something. But it’s the people that live like 5 miles from the wedding that take forever to let you know if they’re going. So annoying!
Post # 14
@CookieCreamCakes: say what now? for a valid reason or she doesnt know if shell feel like it?!
Post # 15
That would drive me crazy also! When I get an invite I send that RSVP back ASAP!!
Post # 16
That’s BS. People are so wishy-washy these days!