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    jb30    August 28, 2010   St. Louis

    So this is more of a rant so I won't drive BF crazy....

    We have been talking about getting married for almost 2 years now and he FINALLY took me to look at rings around the middle of October.  We found a ring we both loved and it was way below budget and actually ordered it that day.  Because we wanted to change some things about it, that meant it had to be custom made.  Of course they never told me how long it would take to come in (only him), but I was sure it would be in by now!

    I was really hoping for a Thanksgiving or Christmas proposal.  I wanted to be able to celebrate with both of our families and finally have our parents meets.  This weekend was the last chance for that to happen :(.  We had family functions for both of our families on Saturday and it would have been perfect if we could have celebrated with all of them in the same day!

    Now, I won't see him until after Christmas because our families are celebrating 2 hours apart on Christmas day.  We decided together our first Christmas that we had the rest of our lives to split up Christmas-time and wanted to spend as much time with our families as possible.

    I'm just bummed because I was SURE it would happen around Christmas and am getting super anxious.  Plus I feel awful bugging BF about it all the time because I know it's not his fault that we had to order it and that it is taking so long. 

    I feel so much better haha!  We haven't told any of our friends or family about ordering the ring, so I have no one to talk to about this but him and I am trying really hard not to bring it up (he wants it to be as much of a surprise as possible at this point with me knowing about the ring).  Thank you so much for letting me whine!

     
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    well at least you know a ring is comming! hugs!

     
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    cinemaparadiso    July 16, 2015  

    What if he's planning to throw a cool NYE bash? Or show up unexpectedly on Christmas? You never know, and when he does do it, it will still be special. Good luck on waiting, it is soooo hard. and like jwinnings said, you do know it's coming!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    At least you know that probably has it and it will be coming soon.  I know being patient is hard but I find that not talking to him about it will make it come because then he thinks that you forgot about it and it will really be a suprise.  All guys want the proposal to be a surprise and special for their fiances!  You can come here and whine as much as you want!

     
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    tihs is the thing about suprises that suck: you never know when it'll be. just try to enjoy the holidays for what it is, engagement or not. i'm sure he's planning something great just for you.

     
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    Jaxx317    July 17, 2011   Brooklyn, NY/wedding in the Hudson Valley

    Well maybe the custom thing is taking longer than he planned. I'm sorry it didn't happen yet, but I'm sure there's a really good reason for it! At least you know the ring has been purchased!

     
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    jb30    August 28, 2010   St. Louis

    Thanks everyone!  You girls are all wonderful.

    BF and I had a talk the other night because we have been having fights more often than normal.  I know part of it is because we are frustrated we aren't together.

    He was really sweet though and told me he just wants to plan something romantic and meaningful for me, so I feel much better.

    Plus one of my best friends got engaged, so I can turn all my wedding energy toward her to start the planning!

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    How exciting for your best friend?! My best friend should be getting engaged any day now and I'll get to help her with her wedding! I am very excited about it as well.

     

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