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Ok so the dress of fiances SIL will be champagne color ...
Just to make sure, I googled champagne color dress in google images and it's practically off white.
I have been dreading the moment of someone wearing off white to my wedding.
I know, I know, there are people who happen to not mind ... but I do. I think it's so weird if a family member buys a fancy dress and it's any color close to the color of a wedding dress.
I won't say anything. GOD.
I'm sorry hun , I know it's frustrating. I agree I probably wouldn't say anything either
I mind too but would never say anything either. That sucks. I kinda thoguht it was weird when two of my fi's cousins wore entirely white outfits to my shower but I let it go obviously. I know someone will do it at our wedding too but there's not much you can do. I just don't understand what people don't get about that being the ONE COLOR you should not wear ANY VERSION OF at someone else's wedding!!!
You won't say anything...but rest assured that your guests will notice and they will say a few things bewtween themselves. And, she's family, so this might get discussed behind her back for years to come. At the end of the day, its her that looks bad and not you. My wedding dress is champagne and you're right, its not too far from white!
It's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO weird. Her husband is fiances brother and best man ... so she's wearing practically white ... in a big fancy dress and her husband is the best man in my wedding.
What. Is she trying to compete with me? Lol.
If it makes you feel any better, more people will be thinking "what is wrong with this girl!?" than "oooh, look at her gorgeous dress". For the most part, people know you shouldn't look remotely like you are in a wedding dress at someone else's wedding!
Uh. Yeah. I was that girl. I wore ivory to my sister-in-law's wedding. I honestly didn't even think about it. I wish someone had said something to me! I hate looking at those pictures now.
Poor girl!
You're handling this really well! If I were you, I'd probably ask my fiance to get his brother to tell her that wearing off white might not be very appreciated at a wedding. If anyone notices, they'll empathize with you though so don't worry!
How frustrating! You're definitely handling it well by not saying anything (I know I would be tempted to say something, lol). If it makes you feel any better, I'm sure most guests , if they notice, will think it a little strange that she's wearing a practically white dress, and no one is going to mistake her for the bride, so not to worry! I totally could see how this would be majorly annoying though!
My fiance was like "It's ok, your skirt is the size of the dance floor." Lol. Ok. It is weird she told me the color ... and the fact that she is already ...what do you call it ... a bi*ch doesn't help the matter.
I'm just going to make weird comments around her about dresses in the category of white in any shade ... if I see pictures I'm going to be like "OMG she wore that color? I'd be mortified if I were her." "How does she NOT KNOW?" ... lol.
I mean, even my mil and future sil knew. I even told them I hate ivory and "darker shades of white" on purpose. Lol.
Is gold okay? I am going to a wedding and I own a gold/champagne dress. The bride's wedding is two weeks before mine.
It's gold...but light gold...knee length
Dropping hints and making little p-a comments behind her back probably isn't going to get you the outcome that you want... If this is something that really bothers you deep down, and you don't think you can let it go, I think you should address it directly with her. Keep in mind, though, that she might not look too highly on someone trying to control what she's wearing. Good luck!
Sometimes a champagne color is closer to a gold color, it really depends on the designer. But do you really think she is doing this to upset you? If so I am sorry she is being inconsiderate of your feelings. But honestly you are the bride, everyone is coming to celebrate with you and your husband. Concentrate on the love you're there to celebrate and nothing else. You don't need any additional drama.
If it continues to bother you talk to her about it, she will be family after all.
Good luck :)
I know! It's considered an 'appropriate' color to wear to a wedding... but bridal gowns come in champaigne, so...
If it's really bothering you, tell your photographer to avoid getting pictures of her beyond the mandatory posed shots. Maybe just doing that will make you feel better about it.
I agree with many of the above points. People will look at her like the fool. I went to a wedding a few weekends ago where a girl was wearing a floor length white dress with a black sash - and insisted it was ok because there was a black sash. Bride comes out...and has a black sash on her dress! She was PIIIIIISSED, but everyone at the wedding was talking about the other girl and what an idiot she was and how selfish, etc. I know it irks you to no end, especially bc you say she is a b*tch, but dont let her get the best of you. You could always have you rFI check it out and be like "wow...isnt that a little close to the color of _____'s dress??" Maybe she'll get the hint. If not, ignore it and like someone said above, avoid having her in photos you arent in. Sorry about this 
She'll just look silly in comparison to you and people will pity her.
There were maybe 3 girls who wore white with a little bit of black cocktail dresses to my wedding (I KNOW! WTH) and people kept coming up to me all night going, "i can't BELIEVE..." so you aren't the only one.
The majority of people think it's in very poor taste. And she's probably doing it on purpose, which is just dumb...obviously it'll irk you, but it'll really make her look BAD BAD BAD.
You don't HAVE to have pictures of her...she's not quite "family" or "bridal party" for formals, she's just your FI's SIL. She's at the bottom of the totem pole, sweetie.
The posters above are right...most people are going to look at her and say, "Wow...didn't she know? That's so embarrassing..." So you will absolutely have the rest of the women at your wedding have your back. She's the one who is going to look like the fool, not you.
My mother-in-law wore champagne!! She just had no clue what was or wasn't appropriate. It was no big deal, though; I was in white and she looked totally different -- her dress was definitely not a wedding dress.
That's frustrating that she's wearing champagne. Starrienyte is right, sometimes champagne will look more like gold or beige than ivory. In fact, my mom had planned to wear a champagne dress, but changed her mind at the last minute. My dress had a champagne sash and it really looked more gold against the ivory of my dress. Hopefully this will be the case.
If I were you, I wouldn't mention anything to her about it. Other people will notice and comment and know that she's inappropriate. I think this is one of those situations where you don't have to worry about her--she'll be embarrassing herself.
Ok. All the comments are helpful. I actually went to sleep and when I woke up I felt more at ease about it. It's frustrating. The point above that she told me the color (in a text message) "I got the most perfect dress in champagne to wear to your wedding" and it is also from the exact bridal shop I got my wedding dress from ... bothered me.
I will just let it go. She is already bothersome ... and this just really irked me, but really there's nothing I can do.
P.S. I think gold is ok for a wedding, hopefully this dress is more gold and not the ivory/off white champagne color of wedding dresses.
This is my one huge peeve with guest etiquette--you just do not wear white to a wedding--or any shade near it. She sounds completely unaware and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. But I hope it's a darker shade for your sake. Regardless of what she wears, you will look beautiful and special, and that's all that counts!
Champagne is a funny color. It can mean different things to different people. At my MOH's daughter's wedding, my MOH (the mother of the bride) wore a champagne dress and I would have described it as a dark beige or tan. The following two photos are both of champagne dresses but if the pics show up, you will see they are very different colors. So maybe take a look @ SIL's dress before freakin!
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Just so you know, it gets more weird. Her husband is in the wedding, he's the best man and wearing a shirt that is custom made and the exact shirt as my fiance .... well he hasn't been measured yet, but that's what I had in mind and told the guys. So now the wife is trying to get a dress that is the color of my wedding gown. It's sooo weird.
I will be the bigger person and not say anything, and I think she's doing it to create drama.
I'm just glad I have WeddingBee to vent to. Thank you!
Just remember that she is the one who is making the faux pas. You're being really good about it, but when people say something about it, it won't reflect negatively on you in the least, just on her.
And she could show up naked and it still wouldn't steal your show. 
Yeah, just keep in mind that it's HER mistake :) You have better things to think about, and if she's really trying to compete - I just feel bad for her. Pretty silly color choice. Hopefully it's more gold toned and you'll be pleasantly surprised!
My mom's dress is called champagne, but it is actually more of a taupe. I never questioned her wearing it. No one would mistake it for a bridal gown. Hopefully this dress is also more of a taupe color.
Awwww I can't believe she's now trying to get the exact color of your dress. Jeez she really is a b***h! Everyone is right, though, she's going to look like a fool and people will talk mad trash behind her back at the wedding and afterward. It's one thing if someone does this because they just really don't know, but from what you've said it sounds like this girl knows EXACTLY what she's doing. You are so the bigger person for not saying anything and letting it go, though. I would be all over her like white on rice for that. There are very few things that would bring out bridezilla tendencies in me, but that is at the top of the list!
I think a friend of yours should be armed with a glass of red wine and maybe have a little "accident" ;)
Is this the SIL who demanding some people be invited? She sounds like a nightmare.
It sucks that she has NO wedding etiquette but I recommend letting it slide (as tough as that may be!) She will look the fool for being dressed like that.
She got it from the same place you got your WEDDING DRESS from?!
Take solace in the fact that she probably spent a lot of money to look like an idiot. I mean, dresses from bridal shops are really expensive. Hopefully it's more gold and less champagne, but all I can picture is bridesmaid/bride champagne, which is very light.
Ok, she got the dress from the same place you got your wedding dress from AND she's trying to match the color of your dress? Wow...she's really going to look like a fool. It does sound like she's just trying to create drama to probably see how you're going to react. I think you're being extremely classy by holding your head high and not participating in the drama. Good for you! 
Man, I'm sorry! The girl is married to your FI's brother, that means she had a wedding herself and there is NO way she's clueless about the faux pas. Jeez, that's the one wedding rule I did know before getting engaged myself.
My guy's SIL is pregnant (though not that far along...) and called to tell me she'll be wearing 'baggy jeans' to be comfortable. She's horrible too and has hated me since before she even met me, which hasn't won her any favor in the family. Since she's married to FI's brother we are always being compared, and since she's so mean it's generally not in her favor. I bet your guests will all feel the same way. She's the one being a jerk, so everyone will just be glad they're getting a good in-law in you.
There are different versions of champagne as well, is she talking the really deep color? I also have pictures from a wedding of a major faux paus! I wore a very heavily embroidered but gorgeous gown. I was 19 (ICK).... I wish someone would have told me as well!
I'm so sorry! I'm in the same boat....my SIL showed me her WHITE dress that she is wearing.....the worst part? It's the exact same neckline as mine....front and back :( ...and she has 5" stillettos to go with it (remember, we are having a 20 person wedding in the country, and I don't do heels...I'll have ballet flats on). So, like you, I won't say anything. But it does bug me!
Is the dress a bridal gown or just a dress from a bridal store? My mom and I looked at MOB dresses at the bridal store while we were waiting for my fitting and there were a lot of champagne dresses that were really closer to a gold color. A few years ago I was a BM in my brothers wedding and our dresses were champagne and they honestly did not look like a shade of white.
What color dress are you wearing?
both my mom and MIL wore champagne dresses and i was fine with it. champagne is really more a goldy-brown color, not off-white. but that depends on who you ask i guess because i've never described off-white as champagne. have you seen her dress or are you over reacting over google photos? i'd see the dress first hand first before making any assumptions about the color and how she's trying to compete with your dress.
You're right -- sooo weird. And incredibly rude, considering that she's been a bride, and knows about the "white" drama. I'm glad you're not going to say anything -- she'll look like that much more of a fool in front of everyone.
Ugh, I can definitely see why you're annoyed -- my wedding dress is "champagne" and it's pretty much cream-colored/off-white, definitely not a color I'd wear as a guest at a wedding. Hopefully hers is more of a dark gold/tan, but it does kind of sound like she's trying to cause drama -- I would think that anyone who's shopped for wedding dresses before would know that "champagne" is a fairly typical color description for bridal dresses, and would say "gold" instead.
But I agree with the others who've said that, if it's an inappropriate dress, she'll be the one who looks bad!
I have the same question as GabGal, is this the same SIL who FREAKED out over her own personal guest list?? I'd be about ready to disinvite her... seriously, she sounds like a total zero.
I think you should leak it thru the guys to then have them tell her. Is your FH suave? He could present it to his best man is a quizzical or joking manner, to have BM then bring it up. That way, if she's clueless, she'll know and change it (hopefully), if not change, then she just sucks. On the other hand, so what if she finds out you want her to change it. It's really not cool. Ah well, you could just tell her flat out that it's kinds close to your dress color and that you feel a little wierd.
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