Post # 1
Ok so the dress of fiances SIL will be champagne color …
Just to make sure, I googled champagne color dress in google images and it’s practically off white.
I have been dreading the moment of someone wearing off white to my wedding.
I know, I know, there are people who happen to not mind … but I do. I think it’s so weird if a family member buys a fancy dress and it’s any color close to the color of a wedding dress.
I won’t say anything. GOD.
Post # 3
I’m sorry hun , I know it’s frustrating. I agree I probably wouldn’t say anything either
Post # 4
I mind too but would never say anything either. That sucks. I kinda thoguht it was weird when two of my fi’s cousins wore entirely white outfits to my shower but I let it go obviously. I know someone will do it at our wedding too but there’s not much you can do. I just don’t understand what people don’t get about that being the ONE COLOR you should not wear ANY VERSION OF at someone else’s wedding!!!
Post # 5
You won’t say anything…but rest assured that your guests will notice and they will say a few things bewtween themselves. And, she’s family, so this might get discussed behind her back for years to come. At the end of the day, its her that looks bad and not you. My wedding dress is champagne and you’re right, its not too far from white!
Post # 6
It’s SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO weird. Her husband is fiances brother and best man … so she’s wearing practically white … in a big fancy dress and her husband is the best man in my wedding.
What. Is she trying to compete with me? Lol.
Post # 7
If it makes you feel any better, more people will be thinking "what is wrong with this girl!?" than "oooh, look at her gorgeous dress". For the most part, people know you shouldn’t look remotely like you are in a wedding dress at someone else’s wedding!
Post # 8
Uh. Yeah. I was that girl. I wore ivory to my sister-in-law’s wedding. I honestly didn’t even think about it. I wish someone had said something to me! I hate looking at those pictures now.
Post # 9
But don’t worry, I’m sure that it wont take away from you at all. I’m sure the other guests (who aren’t in the know about weddings) will not even notice.
Even if she is trying to compete with you it only makes her look like a jerk.
But August15Bride makes a great point, she could be totally clueless (although if she were I don’t know why she’d call you to tell you the colour of her dress). If you think this is the case maybe you should get a mutual friend or someone to slyly tell her that wearing champagne is a poor etiquette choice.
Post # 10
You’re handling this really well! If I were you, I’d probably ask my fiance to get his brother to tell her that wearing off white might not be very appreciated at a wedding. If anyone notices, they’ll empathize with you though so don’t worry!
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
How frustrating! You’re definitely handling it well by not saying anything (I know I would be tempted to say something, lol). If it makes you feel any better, I’m sure most guests , if they notice, will think it a little strange that she’s wearing a practically white dress, and no one is going to mistake her for the bride, so not to worry! I totally could see how this would be majorly annoying though!
Post # 12
My fiance was like "It’s ok, your skirt is the size of the dance floor." Lol. Ok. It is weird she told me the color … and the fact that she is already …what do you call it … a bi*ch doesn’t help the matter.
I’m just going to make weird comments around her about dresses in the category of white in any shade … if I see pictures I’m going to be like "OMG she wore that color? I’d be mortified if I were her." "How does she NOT KNOW?" … lol.
I mean, even my mil and future sil knew. I even told them I hate ivory and "darker shades of white" on purpose. Lol.
Post # 13
Is gold okay? I am going to a wedding and I own a gold/champagne dress. The bride’s wedding is two weeks before mine.
It’s gold…but light gold…knee length
Post # 14
Dropping hints and making little p-a comments behind her back probably isn’t going to get you the outcome that you want… If this is something that really bothers you deep down, and you don’t think you can let it go, I think you should address it directly with her. Keep in mind, though, that she might not look too highly on someone trying to control what she’s wearing. Good luck!
Post # 15
Sometimes a champagne color is closer to a gold color, it really depends on the designer. But do you really think she is doing this to upset you? If so I am sorry she is being inconsiderate of your feelings. But honestly you are the bride, everyone is coming to celebrate with you and your husband. Concentrate on the love you’re there to celebrate and nothing else. You don’t need any additional drama.
If it continues to bother you talk to her about it, she will be family after all.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 16
I know! It’s considered an ‘appropriate’ color to wear to a wedding… but bridal gowns come in champaigne, so…
If it’s really bothering you, tell your photographer to avoid getting pictures of her beyond the mandatory posed shots. Maybe just doing that will make you feel better about it.