Post # 1
I have a situation. My friend set her wedding date for May 4, 2013. I have always wanted a spring wedding and the venue that I want my wedding at only has two options left May 18th or June 8. I want to choose the May 18th wedding because of some other things my fiancee and i have going on in June. So our weddings will be two weeks from each other. She was engaged first and picked her date first so i dont want to step on her toes. She didnt ask me to be in her wedding, so I am not having hers in mine. But we have two bridesmaids that are going to be in both of our weddings so i am worried about them too. Should I worry or just have the wedding in May or does it even matter?! Please give me feedback as i have to decide soon to keep the dates.
Post # 3
I would ask the two bridesmaids if they would mind, but let them know that May is your 1st choice. Is there a lot of overlap with the guests?
Post # 4
No overlap with guests besides the two. Each said since it is my day, I should pick the date I want. But they were just being supportive.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I wouldn’t be concerned… especially since the 2 BMs said it was fine. Just enjoy your day!
Post # 6
I dont think its going to matter either way since June 8th really isn’t that much further out. They agreed to be in both weddings and, I’m assuming, pay for both dresses on their own so it really shouldn’t make a difference on their part. If you want May, go with May!
Post # 7
@Taeyers: this was my first thought too.
@cherryjuice: if you have asked them for their opinion and if it would be okay, then i would do may. will your friend who is getting married earlier be back from her honeymoon by then? would that make a difference for you?
Post # 8
Personally, I think people take these types of things WAY to personally. It’s yours and your FI day and you should choose what the two of you want and what works best for you and your families. Yes, I think it would be nice to touch base with the other two bridesmaids but I don’t think you should worry what the other bride will think. Especially since your not in her wedding. My FI will be in a wedding on December 22nd and then turn around and marry me on the 30th with that previous groom turning into our groomsmen! We NEVER even considered it being “rude” (we had our date first)–we were so excited that we got to share this time of our lives so close together with our friends. They’ll head straight to our reherasal following their honeymoon! We all made it work and we’re all SO excited! I’m sure you’ll be fine =)
Post # 9
I was an MOH and BM in weddings two weeks apart many years ago. It really wasn’t that stressful. They just have to be organized. – and you’ll need to be understanding if they aren’t able to attend some of the wedding events for you. There could be overlapping party dates, etc.
Pick the date you like.
Post # 10
@cherryjuice: I would go ahead and take May! I don’t think that would have said that if it was an actual problem at all. Especially since there’s not guest overlap. Let yourself have the date you want.