Ugh, do you really love him? 'Cause you're too pretty for him.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Silly_love:  That is such an obnoxiously rude thing to say. Perhaps that’s her problem, she’s too worried about looks to actually be happy with a nice guy. My FI isn’t winning any beauty contests (and neither am I, I get hit on A LOT, but I’m definitely not model material). My friends never saw his pic and said “Ooooh girl, he’s gorgeous!” Oh well. I know FI isn’t the most beautiful, but in my eyes he’s adorable. He treats me well and that’s all that matters.

Post # 4
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Ah, this would annoy me so much!

 

i get a similar thing a lot at work. i’m 21 and my FI is 27, we’ve been together for two and a half years, and anytime I mention us doing anything romantic, all the other woman exchange glances and say ‘young love’, as if I’m completely naive. Why shouldn’t we celebrate our love for each other by having nice dinners and fun dates? The majority of these women are divorced or unhappily married, so why they think they’re qualified to judge is beyond me! Perhaps if they ‘d given some special romance and attention to their partner, they might be a lot happier. Just because I’m 21 does not make any less of my relationship! 

Post # 5
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Highfield House, Stanley, Tasmania

People like this really get on my nerves. I am sorry you have to deal with people like this too :/

 

Post # 6
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Mauritius

@Silly_love: It’s annying because some people have too many opinions! Especially when they dont really even know you that well! What your FI looks like have absolutly nothing to do with anything, my FI is shorter than me and people always make comments etc, but you know what he’s a great guy, makes me laugh and I love him so they can keep their opinions to themselves!

With regards to the other stuff, when you want children is up to you and FI NOT anyone else. I can understand people with kids letting you know how tough it is, but to be fair by this age we all know that it isn’t just a cute baby and it’s hard work, but that’s your decision. It should like you are both in a great place and very responsible and aren;t massive drinkers/smokers etc.

I think perhaps things didn;t pan out how she had imagined and so she is pushing that onto you, maybe she loved to party, drink and smoke and HAD to stop and she resents people who still have tat luxury,

Either way some people just can;t help themselves, stop responding to her it obviously fuels her, she must be at home bored with nothing else to do! 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ah, this girl sounds immature. I once had a divorced woman tell me I must only be with my FI for his money (we’re not rich by any standards!) because he was, and I quote, ‘an ugly mother-fucker’. I just replied ‘with all due respect, I hold no weight in your opinion considering you chose your ex-husband for looks and now all you do is complain about how much of an arsehole he is’. That shut her up fairly quickly.

 

Let her pass judgement all she wants, but at the end of the day you know your relationship. She is divorced, so something went wrong for her somewhere. I think my FI is a gorgeous, gorgeous man and even though his friends sometimes joke that he’s punching above his weight, everyday I thank whoever is out there that he chose me!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Someone said basically the same thing to me about my FI. That I could do better. 🙁 This from a woman who sleeps with other people’s husbands and NOT her own, though she isn’t interested in leaving him (whatever). 

Just goes to show that people are ridiculous.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Silly_love:  How ridiculous! Sure, you have to find a person attractive to want to be with them, but building a relationship is about who you are on the inside, as wanky as that sounds. I don’t care if other people think my FI is ugly. He has amazing dress sense, he is kind, he can’t wait to become a father, he takes care of me when I’m ill, he encourages me to grow as a person through studying and persuing my hobbies, he loves me spending time with my friends…I think he is perfect! Once I stopped looking for a guy who was traditionally handsome and ‘fit’, I found the man of my dreams.

 

Maybe you should be giving her advice! Wink

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Silly_love:  you are way too nice. If someone made even one of those comments to me I would have said “You are a cunt and its no wonder you’re single”, walked away and never see her again. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Silly_love:  yeah. Most people refer to my FI as “the nicest person I know”. Meanwhile, when my friends first met him they told me not to be a bitch. We balance each other out 😛

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I wouldn’t really care about comments like this. I only get upset about comments that people I respect make. Otherwise it doesn’t impact my day. Sure, it can be momentarily offensive but I’d simply tell her to shut the fuck up and move on. 

Also, a lot of times people have good intentions but don’t have a very good delivery. I agree with her that I wouldn’t pop out kids with someone I just moved in with but it’s not her place to say that. Some people don’t know their place and what’s appropriate. 

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