Ugh, don't know what to do!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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631 posts
Busy bee

@MissC88:  not being funny but if you need the surgery then you must have it done!  You can cover or hide the scar in all sorts of different ways but to struggle on in pain just to look good on one day of your wedding – not such a good plan!

Post # 4
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2885 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It’s your wedding day.  You will be in a wonderful dress, marrying someone you love, and no one should (or likely will) be paying attention to your scar. 

This reminds me of a girl tearing her ACL prior to prom, but not wanting the surgery as she wanted to “walk” at prom (we had a huge enterance thing)  She ended up making the surgery harder on herself because she waited longer, put more presure on her already torn muscles, and spent longer healing.  IMO, it wasn’t worth it for 2 minutes of spotlight.

Post # 5
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Makeup will cover the scar. Go for the surgery!

Post # 7
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5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well first off… who ever notices elbows!? 

Second, taking care of your incision well, using vitamin E on it to minimize scarring, and covering it with make up, will help it not be noticable

Post # 8
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42522 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissC88: The scars from today’s surgery are not nearly as large as they used to be, especially if they do arthroscopic surgery. Have you asked the surgeon what the scar will look like?  Depending on the style of your dress, you could wear a lace jacket with 3/4 length  sleeves.

Post # 10
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’ve heard good things about Mederma to reduce the appearance of scars.

Look into tattoo-covering makeup… it’ll probably work on scars.

Post # 11
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2394 posts
Buzzing bee

@MissC88:  

Have the surgery. Don’t risk the chance that your situation could get worse if you delay the surgery.

There are amazing concealer creams out there for people who are dealing with scars. If you talk to a cosmetic dermatologist, I’m sure he or she could make suggestions. Or even just go to the makeup counter at a fine department store. 

Post # 12
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1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Scars tell the stories in our lives. They become a part of us. I have a big scar on my elbow from a biking accident, so it’s all gnarly. Your scar will be from surgery, so it will heal nicely and cleanly! 

Post # 14
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320 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MissC88:  I feel your pain. I have a large scar on my upper arm when I had a chunk if skin excised due to melanoma (Obviously, I could not postpone the surgery).  I have gotten used to it in everyday life but was very focused on it when trying on wedding gowns. Every consultant steered me to strapless because it tended to look the best. They assured me that makeup would cover the scar.  Sorry I don’t have any suggestions for you as to brand if makeup but I’ll let you know if I hear of any. 

Post # 15
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Can you request that the stitches be done on the inside? I don’t know the technical term for it, but I’ve had many surgeries and those where the stitches were done interally have very thin, light scars. I have a scar that is almost 10 inches long and you literally cannot even see it because of how the stitching was done. When I look at my leg I have to search for the scar because its so unnoticable.

Also, you can do a light spray tan (I know your wedding is in December, so just get a super light one) and that definitely helps to hide scars. Even some makeup might work. Like the type that covers tattoos.

Post # 16
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353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

As others have said, take care of your incision and your scar should fade considerably. I have had 5 surgeries myself and hardly any of my scares are noticable to anyone other than myself. You will know it is there but others may not even notice, especially if you cover it with makeup! If you have surgery in May/June but December the redness will certainly have calmed down.

They now make silicone strips that you can apply to your incision that help a lot! Also, vitamin E. Don’t make yourself suffer for longer just because you are worried about wedding photos. 

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