(Closed) UGH … fiance just calls me and goes my mom saw ___ and they didn’t get their

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Are you saying Fi’s mom asked some nonguest if they received their invitation, when you weren’t planning on inviting them?  Ugg.  Are you going to send them one?  Fi should have her call them and apologize for the mistake.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

oh-ohhhhhhhhhhhh….. that sounds scary! 

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Agree with Tanya. That’s terrible that she did that, and FI’s mom needs to explain.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

If your FMIL said something then it’s her mistake, not yours. I’d just let it slide & not worry about it.

If the non-guest asked your FMIL then it’s a different story. I always use “an eye for an eye” in situations like this. If you’re rude & ask for an invite I’ll be rude back and tell you that you didn’t get one because you weren’t invited.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

First of all, if you didn’t plan to invite them, don’t invite them–if you don’t have the room, that’s not cool of either the non-guest or your FMIL. If they asked, ignore it; if the FMIL asked, tell her she’ll have to explain to them that the space was limited and she hadn’t realized how much the guest list had to be cut. It sucks, but that’s life–not everyone can come to your wedding!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

Well who are these people?  What is their relationship to you or FI?  Part of me says say stick to your guns.  (Especially if FMIL seems to be doing passive agressive manuevers to undercut you.) 

But….. if it was an innocent mistake, AND, you have the room, AND this guest is someone who you know well enough to be comfortable inviting….maybe you could invite them.  It’s so hard, and stressful the closer you get to your wedding.  I’m just thinking, if it’s not a big deal, just OK it and get on with your life.  You have bigger fish to fry.  But there are a lot of variables there.  But either way, have FI tell his mom, that you two do not have the time to run around fixing her mistakes.  And she needs to keep her mouth closed about stuff.  (Only in a nicer way.)

Good luck.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

MsH… this situation is stressful no matter if you are pms’ing or not!

and i vote no for giving them an invite – the were left off the list for a reason,,,, might be easier to lock the FMIL in a small dark room with no access to public until the weddings, just in case she talks to other people and says “did you get the invite”

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

If they werent on your list to invite there is a reason. Do not cave and invite them now have the FMIL call and apologize. It was her mistake she gets to fix it.

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