Post # 1
This Sunday, Father-In-Law was more of a d-bag than usual. He actually leaned over during lunch and said, ” I betcha you couldn’t wait to come over here and see us, huh?” we both know that we had issues during the wedding, but it’s over now and I’m just ignoring it.
Then, as we were leaving, I gave him a quick one- armed hug and he said, “you know, you CAN call me Dad now.”
Post # 3
Just because you CAN it doesn’t mean you WILL. 🙂
Post # 4
I call my in-laws mum and dad and I include hubby’s step dad in that as well! But I am guessing I have a better relationship than you (sorry don’t know the back story)! I have already promised Mother-In-Law that we will look after her in her old age because she doesn’t think SIL’s(by marriage she only has sons) would do it or be capable. I said sure why not what’s one more oldie and my mum and her get along great lol! I count myself lucky to have 3 dads and 2 mums!
Post # 5
I have a fine relationship with my inlaws but I have a dad and mom and WILL NOT be calling anyone else that… No thanks!!
Post # 6
Yuck. My ILs extended the “mom and dad” thing after we got engaged, but it was totally my choice. I did choose to call them Mom and Dad…when my father died, my Father-In-Law even told me he understood if I didn’t want to call him Dad anymore. Sorry to hear your Father-In-Law is being such a jerk! I vote call him Father in the iciest tone ever until he gets the picture. 😀
Post # 7
@peaches13: HAHA love the father in the iceiest tone ever 🙂
Post # 8
It is a PERSONAL choice, and not his to make.
Although, even if he is a D-Bag (lol, your term) somewhat nice of him to make the magnanimous offer.
I NEVER got close enough to my Ex-Inlaws in 20+ Years to call them Mom & Dad (although as a NEW Bride I did consider it in the beginning)… just couldn’t find myself doing it as it seemed to dishonour / take away from the lifelong relationship I had with MY OWN Mom & Dad (Mom was Mom, Dad was Dad)
In the end we settled on our first names all around (but I did call my Ex’s GP’s by their affectionate names… example Gramma Kate)
Considering my first marriage ended in Divorce (not pretty)… I am grateful that in the end I didn’t have to give up another set of “parents”… I just drifted away from “Dick & Jane”… just like one would lose contact with any other friends who you don’t see eye-to-eye with over time.
Lol, might be a valuable lesson in that experience for someone else.
Post # 9
I have a great relationship with Future Father-In-Law but I dont call him dad. Its sad that Fiance and I have been together almost 5 yrs and I still dont know what to call him! I just get on the phone and say “HEY!” then theres this awkward pause I hate and we continue talking. I have been married before and I called my ex’s dad “dad” but now our relationship is dead, burnt and gone and I guess I’m still in a little bit of fear of getting close to another “dad” only to have to break up the relationship.
Post # 10
I just tell them that I already have parents 🙂
Post # 11
you can call him alot of things, but you don’t have to call him dad 🙂
ugh, what a cringeworthy moment!