Ugh, I feel like a terrible friend!

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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3165 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 

cls9q:  Stop at the shower and then celebrate with your FI– If you go to the shower from 5-6, she will be really happy! A few of my friends flaked the day of and it really sucked they couldnt take an hour out of their day to stop in and support me…

Post # 3
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1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

cls9q:  What does he have planned? Could you still spend the whole day together, head to the bbq for a few hours and then excuse yourselves off for a nice dinner to celebrate your anniversary?

Post # 4
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

cls9q:  I think you can stop by for a few and explain her you can’t stay for long Because it your 4 years anniversary with the hubbs, and you got to go celebrate she will understand. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  Chaedra.
Post # 5
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7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cls9q:  Were you invited to the shower? Or did you just find about it this Tuesday? 

If you were invited then (in my opinion) you should have told this to FI and made plans to celebrate with him another day. But if you weren’t invited and just found out about it, to be honest I’d apologise and tell the truth: that you just found out it was on and FI has made special plans.

Post # 7
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1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

cls9q:  Show up for an hour, drop off a gift, and consider it good karma for the both of you as you start your life together. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  coffeedrinker.
Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cls9q:  Then I think the shower takes priority. It certainly takes priority if you indicated you were going to attend. In my book, you don’t get out of an obligation because you suddenly realised it was your dating anniversary.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I didn’t realize my Bridal Shower was on our anniversary till after I had the invitations in hand and everything set ready to go lol. How do you get out of that one? haha!

I would strongly suggest you stop by her shower even if it is just for an hour… I know you want to celebrate your anniversary, but if you already said you’d go and then don’t then she is really going to resent you. Specially after already telling you so many people were not going to show up 🙁

 

Post # 12
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2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

cls9q:  If you didn’t tell her you would go, you certainly do not have to attend if you have other plans, but you should RSVP as soon as possible so that whoever is hosting can have an accurate head count!

If you can’t make it to her shower, could you throw her a shower or an engagement party at work? I don’t know how lax your work rules are (or how close you are to others you work with, for that matter), but maybe even just getting her a card and having everyone at work sign it and then surprising her with a cake would be nice! Everyone loves cake!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

cls9q:  I feel like you’re “off the hook” then. I think the better path might be to apologise that you can’t come because your FI already had a special event planned.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

I’m sorry but I would stop by, it doesn’t seem right to not go.  Can you do the paint/ wine then to her party and dinner the next night? I know you didn’t specifically state you would go but she is, obviously, sensitive about the fact ppl aren’t coming. I know it’s not your obligation to tend to her feelings but it would be a good gesture.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  Charmaine7.
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