Ugh, I feel so much pressure!

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  Aww i know the feeling! Just try to relax and remind yourself whenever you feel anxious about it that it is completely out of your control, and everyone would know and should understand that 🙂

Post # 5
3407 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I’ve heard spicy food, lots of sex, and walking helps naturally induce labor incase you get desperate!

Post # 8
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

even though im really early on, ive been wondering about this. i’d love to have my mum help when the baby arrives but she wont be able to come for long…and the journey is from england to mexico so can’t be arranged last minute

are his flights changeable? as in, if on the 15th theres no sign on the baby coming he could delay a bit?

Post # 9
6633 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

A baby has it’s mind of it’s own. I would try to relax, who knows you may go early you may go late.  Just let that little one bake as long as he/she can. 

Post # 10
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  DH’s dad didn’t choose the best time. In fact to me, a FIL arriving before the due date is a little weird. Anyway, his choice isn’t your fault.

Don’t feel under pressure, baby’s health is 1000000 times more important than FIL’s feelings.

Post # 11
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  Honestly theirs nothing you can do about it. Try not to stress the baby will come when they are ready not necessarily when it suits other!

I was due on December 31st and people gave me a hard time about it saying what a bad time it was. Well my son soon told them all and was born on Christmas Eve ahhh even worse time. 

Post # 12
3009 posts
Sugar bee

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  please tell me none of these are house guests. I would try to persuade them to wait to plan their trip until after baby is here. This is crazy! 

Post # 14
4404 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I just went through almost the same thing. My FIL came to stay with us for about 5 nights starting the week after my due date. I kept telling my husband to please remind him that there was a real possibility that the baby would not be here yet, and to prepare for that possibility. I ended up going into labor on his last day here–he got to witness that but had to take off before seeing the baby. 

Im not sure what my point is, except to just make sure he knows that he may just be having a visit with you all and no baby. And honestly, if it stresses you out, maybe see if he can come a little later. The last thing you want at the very end of your pregnancy is more stress.

Post # 15
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Can you come up with a listing of to do’s for him? Perhaps if he does things around the house to prep for the baby then he will feel like that was productive time. For example, are there baby items he could assemble that you may not need right away like high chair, exersaucer, baby gates, etc. You could also involve him in some of the “speed up labour” items like spicy meals together. Even if the baby doesn’t arrive right away I’m sure he will have good memories of these times.

Post # 16
1147 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Cory_loves_this_girl:  I already told DH that we aren’t telling anyone when we go into labor because the idea of people sitting in the waiting room of the hospital “just waiting on me to pop out the baby” just drives my anxiety through the roof. Also, I said no over night guests right off the back, including our parents. I really want the time right after baby comes for us to be together as a family & I don’t want my mom or his mom saying, “oh do it this way or try this.” I can totally understand why you’d feel so much pressure to have the baby “on time” but at the same time you said FIL is retired, so he could always come back after the first of the year once your mom/sisters have completed their visits. 

My brother & SIL are expecting their first in September, we are on the west coast & they are on the east coast. Her parents are only 5 hours away so they are planning on driving down once she goes into labor & then my sister & BIL are planning a trip in early October with a follow up visit by my mom & her husband in the middle of October (they are both visiting for 1 week each.) My SIL is so brave, I wouldn’t want peeps staying with me after baby comes let alone guests from across the country who have never been to DC. I would feel so much pressure to entertain my guests & not just chill & bond with my new baby.

Best of luck to you with the rest of your pregnancy and your family visits before/during & after baby comes.

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