Post # 1
When i was talking to my future in laws about the wedding invitations they told me i had to put money tree on the reception cards and my FI agreed!!!!! They said that if i didnt, we would just end up with toasters, plates etc….ugh!!!! My FI and i have been living together for 2 years now, we don’t need anything home related. I ordered my invites and i did not put “money tree” on them and when i told my FI he’s reaction was “i guess we r ending up with 10 toasters” ok soo now when the invites get here and my FIL’s see that i chose not to put money tree on them they will think that im just a brat and that i care too much of what people think. We are from a place where people see it as normal to put money tree on wedding invites but i just dont see it that way. So i know that my in laws will think bad of me but wont say anything, they will just ask why i chose not to put MT on the invites and i have no clue what to say!!!! i dont want them to think bad of me 🙁
I know my family and i know my FI family and i know everyone is going to want to bring a gift (they just are that type of people) and yea maybe we’ll end up with toasters etc..but we can always return them :/ and thats what my FI was trying to avoid (returning the items we dont need) but i just dont want my wedding to seem like a gift grab or money grab.
Help me… wat do i say when my FIL’s ask me why i didnt puy MT on the invites?
Post # 3
Just tell them that it’s your decision and you didn’t want to put any mention of gifts on the invitations because people’s attendance is gift enough. If they want you to receive money, they can tell their family that.
Post # 4
I have never heard of a money tree? At my wedding I received a couple of presents, but mostly cash and checks.
Post # 5
I’ve never heard of this, but if I saw something that said “Money Tree” on an invitation I’d be confused and annoyed. People in my area give money for weddings and gifts for showers anyway, but I really don’t think the word “money” should be anywhere on any kind of printed invitation.
Post # 6
I’ve never heard of doing this.
Are you not doing a registry? That’s a pretty good way to avoid getting 10 toasters.
ETA: if you’re worried about what your FILs think, you could always tell them you just forgot. FI’s reaction is likely just parroting what he’s heard.
Post # 7
NO, no registry. We really dont need anything so we decided not to do a registry, we are skipping the shower too.
Post # 8
You were totally in the right to leave off the mention of a money tree. (Though I’m not familiar with the term.)
I always discourage my brides from making any mention of registries on their invitations. Invitations are something that you are most likely going to save for years and years in a scrapbook. When you look at it you want to remember the day, not the gifts or cash you received. Maybe you could explain it to the in laws that way if they bring it up?
Post # 9
What about doing a honeymoon registry?
Post # 10
I have never heard of a money tree.. but most weddings the couple just recieves cash and cards mostly and some gifts. Are you registred.? IM sure that people are smart enought to figure out if you arent registred for 10 toasters that you arent going to get ten. I would register for some gifts if you havent already for the people that you know will want to bring an actual gift. I know that you said you and FI have lived together for a while, but there is nothing that you can upgrade or you have thought about but passed up?
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
We don’t really need anything, either, as we’ve lived together for two years and lived alone for 3 before that. But, we went ahead and registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond for a few things. Most folks will likely give a cash gift anyway, but having an alternative for those who are determined to get you a gift will help you guys get stuff you want. We registered for “upgrades,” and we already got an awesome set of flatware. Did we particularly need new forks, no… but this set we fell in love with.
The bottom line is that while this isn’t about gifts, this is a time when people really want to give you something… so maybe just let them.
Oh, I have no idea what a money tree is either…
Post # 12
Where im from people that dont want an actual gift and just want monetary gifts put “money tree” on any type of invitations (i dont like that) My FI and i just received a wedding invitation and in the envelope that contained the reception information and the response card was a little paper the read: “If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way, a gift of money towards our new home would really make our day. However if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own special way”
i think this couple left it really clear that they want monetary gifts but instead of putting “money tree” they figured out a more “creative” way to say that the prefer money!
Post # 13
If putting Money Tree is common, then people are used to giving cash. So I would be willing to bet most people will still give cash.
And still register somewhere for stuff you would love, maybe closet organizers, baskets, new pillows, a lampshade etc.
Post # 14
We also did not register and people gave us monsy and gift cards. We only got like 2 actual gifts that came in boxes and they were cool unique things. I think you made the right decision.