Weddingbee boards

ok well my MOH has been my best friend since i can remember. i have known her literally my whole life, we have baby pics together. we have had plenty of fights thoroughout the years cuz shes like my sister, and we always get through it. before i got engaged, she was SOOOOO enthusiastic about being MOH.

ok so i live about an hr away from her, but i go up to the town she lives in every weekend cuz FH lives there. well i was gonig to go pick out the BM dresses and she couldnt come. i asked her a few days before and she said she would try, she couldnt. so that was okay, i have my mom and we picked the dresses. so i ask MOH if i should set a deadline for everyone to order the dress to see whos really in or out, she says yes. well everyone else ordered the dress... and she didnt. btw, she HATES the dress cuz it has a flower made out of material on it. i love the dress and she didnt bother to tell me til after everyone ordered. and i am OCD so i want everyone to match and she was trying to pick out WAYYYYY too short dresses that i didnt like at all. long story short, i asked her if she still wanted to be MOH cuz she started avoiding me and she FLIPPED to say the least. we got over it and made up.

she just ordered the shoes this week, the other BMS ordered 2 mos ago. whatever, i still love her.

okay well heres what im sad about... my bridal shower is in a month and she hadnt even talked about invitations. period. she said a few weeks ago, oh i will get them... okay, she never did, so my mom called her and asked if she wanted her to go get them, and she said yes. (MOH wanted to do bridal shower at my moms house which is fine, mom and grandma love that stuff) my mom is buying all the food and renting the tables so her and MOH are co hosting which if shes mad about that, thats crap. my mom does so much for me and for her, so she should be grateful. anyways, so then me and my mom go get the invites, and we both fill them out. I was filling them out and addressing them. then all the other BMs keep asking me if my MOH is going to contact them and she told me she would months ago, and yea she hasnt. so i gave my SIL BM her number because SIL wants to help. (i think she is feeling bad for me that my MOH isnt doing her part) im just sad. i have been in a weird mood and i know its cuz im upset w her for not being interested at all. i COMPLETELY understand that everyone has different lives and they are preoccupied with theirs, but this is my MOH and the shower is in ONE month. 4 short weeks. thats it. im also sad because i was sitting there writing these invites and my FH was like, "babe, you shouldnt have to do this at all. its her job" so then it makes me sad too. and my other BM was like "dont expect anything out of MOH. that way when she does something nice, itll be good and surprise you."

i am sad that this is supposed to be the most happy time and all i want to do is cry. i know its not a big deal, but to me it is. she was soooo happy for me before and now its like she just doesnt care. and i am NOT going to bring this up because i DONT want to fight w her. i am a EXTREMELY argumentative person and so is she, so it will get nowhere. i am just leaving it alone, but i just want some advice and positive thoughts from someone who has been where im at or who is going through the same thing.

thanks bees. <3

@sep queen... i dont know why shes being this way.. i have tried asking her, but she gets very bitchy and i really dont have the energy right now ya kno? my FH thinks its jealousy. i just dont know. i dont want her to be jealous at all.

@futuremrsreed... my MOH has never been a MOH before either, and we talked about what she is supposed to do before.. her boss just got married and she gave her ideas where to have the bachlorette party etc. back in decemeber, she was saying how she was going to send out the bachlorette invites in february so the bridesmaids know how much itll be, and yea, she didnt. all she ever says is "i need to get on that" she is kinda flaky =( and trust me, she cant handle ANYONE telling her if shes wrong. she will never ever ever admit it, and i feel sorry that she is living her life that way. i wish i could help her, but she wont listen to anyone and she just blows up on everyone.

im just a big ball of tears. =(

thank you for being here for me.

@his barista... thank you girl. hugs right back to you.

@slicey.. thats precisely why i dont wanna talk to her about it. she will flip and i will flip and itll be BAD and then we will be in another rut and i just love her and dont wanna fight ya know? well the invite says hosted by "MOH and Mom" so my mom wont be offended. MOH might, but she isnt doing really any work yet. i feel bad if the bridesmaids do work tho and they arent given credit. ugh, i am just sad and want her to be more into it. thank you for your response.