- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
ok well my Maid/Matron of Honor has been my best friend since i can remember. i have known her literally my whole life, we have baby pics together. we have had plenty of fights thoroughout the years cuz shes like my sister, and we always get through it. before i got engaged, she was SOOOOO enthusiastic about being Maid/Matron of Honor.
ok so i live about an hr away from her, but i go up to the town she lives in every weekend cuz FH lives there. well i was gonig to go pick out the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and she couldnt come. i asked her a few days before and she said she would try, she couldnt. so that was okay, i have my mom and we picked the dresses. so i ask Maid/Matron of Honor if i should set a deadline for everyone to order the dress to see whos really in or out, she says yes. well everyone else ordered the dress… and she didnt. btw, she HATES the dress cuz it has a flower made out of material on it. i love the dress and she didnt bother to tell me til after everyone ordered. and i am OCD so i want everyone to match and she was trying to pick out WAYYYYY too short dresses that i didnt like at all. long story short, i asked her if she still wanted to be Maid/Matron of Honor cuz she started avoiding me and she FLIPPED to say the least. we got over it and made up.
she just ordered the shoes this week, the other BMS ordered 2 mos ago. whatever, i still love her.
okay well heres what im sad about… my bridal shower is in a month and she hadnt even talked about invitations. period. she said a few weeks ago, oh i will get them… okay, she never did, so my mom called her and asked if she wanted her to go get them, and she said yes. (MOH wanted to do bridal shower at my moms house which is fine, mom and grandma love that stuff) my mom is buying all the food and renting the tables so her and Maid/Matron of Honor are co hosting which if shes mad about that, thats crap. my mom does so much for me and for her, so she should be grateful. anyways, so then me and my mom go get the invites, and we both fill them out. I was filling them out and addressing them. then all the other BMs keep asking me if my Maid/Matron of Honor is going to contact them and she told me she would months ago, and yea she hasnt. so i gave my SIL Bridesmaid or Best Man her number because SIL wants to help. (i think she is feeling bad for me that my Maid/Matron of Honor isnt doing her part) im just sad. i have been in a weird mood and i know its cuz im upset w her for not being interested at all. i COMPLETELY understand that everyone has different lives and they are preoccupied with theirs, but this is my Maid/Matron of Honor and the shower is in ONE month. 4 short weeks. thats it. im also sad because i was sitting there writing these invites and my FH was like, “babe, you shouldnt have to do this at all. its her job” so then it makes me sad too. and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man was like “dont expect anything out of Maid/Matron of Honor. that way when she does something nice, itll be good and surprise you.”
i am sad that this is supposed to be the most happy time and all i want to do is cry. i know its not a big deal, but to me it is. she was soooo happy for me before and now its like she just doesnt care. and i am NOT going to bring this up because i DONT want to fight w her. i am a EXTREMELY argumentative person and so is she, so it will get nowhere. i am just leaving it alone, but i just want some advice and positive thoughts from someone who has been where im at or who is going through the same thing.
thanks bees. <3