(Closed) ugh! in laws and wedding planning!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Oh man I would be peeved as well. Im in a similar sitatuon. Fiance and I both have HUGE families and same thing about aunts/uncles and first cousins. Im not inviting a LOT of my first cousins because my Future Mother-In-Law has upped her number from 50 to 84!! ANyways, back to you! Try not to let what your Future Mother-In-Law says get to you. I know that can be almost impossible, BUT you just have to remember that everything will be okay and it is just one day. ANd once the day comes, it will be beautiful and memorable and happy. Do what feels right for you – if you really only want to have 25 guests then maybe you could just do a bbq or party further down the line and invite all the guests to a more casual affair. Im sorry youre going through this! Weddings can make people crazy!!!

Post # 4
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ahhh… I completely sympathize.  My Mother-In-Law is driving me crazy over my wedding, to the point that whenever she says/suggests ANYTHING I. Want. To. Slap. Her.  Her suggestions are just so crazy/unhelpful/not what I want/annoying…. I know she’s just trying to be helpful but I wish she would just remember that the wedding isn’t about her, it’s about me and Fiance….

Anyway, now whenever she mentions ANYTHING about the wedding, I just smile and say things like “What a great idea!” or “Thank you so much- I will definitely have to think about that!” or else just smile and change the subject whenever those kinds of responses don’t work. 

So… I would just try to smile and IGNORE her when she makes those kinds of comments.  It’s not worth your energy to get stressed out by the Mother-In-Law, it’s just not. 🙂  You’re at the homestretch now, you have probably 8 million other things to worry about.


Post # 5
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

HA! I’m in a very similar situation with the Rehearsal Dinner, which Future Mother-In-Law is in charge of…After ignoring repeated concerns/requests for a small, intimate 30-person rehearsal dinner and insisting that all out of town guests be invited (which is going to make it btwn 100-120 people attending), she then asks Mr Trail Mix when he was home over winter break why “the rehearsal dinner is getting so big” and “how did that happen?” IT HAPPENED BECAUSE YOU MADE IT HAPPEN!!!!! That’s the response in my head but I had to stay out of it before causing an absolute scene…

Bottom line; MIL’s are f-in nuts and say one thing and then a week later will completely contradict themselves…All you can do is smile, let it go and then sound off on your (hopefully understanding) FH later on…

I’m sorry tho, that is very very very frustrating!!! 

Post # 6
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOL trailmix – you pretty much summed up all Future Mother-In-Law issues and in-law issues during wedding planning period – smile and sound off on the FH later and hope he understands hahahaha so true.

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