Ugh, in-laws.

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@peachacid:  Yikes, she sounds like a bit of a nightmare. I’d say if she doesn’t want anything to do with me, great! I wouldn’t want to deal with her either. It’s unfortunate that your husband’s parents are seemingly getting hosed financially, but if they want to keep supporting their son and his terror of a wife, that’s their perogative.

Post # 5
30284 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@peachacid:  Oh man! 🙁 Sorry to hear your frustrations!

Post # 6
2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@peachacid:  Your SIL is a bitch who doesn’t want her husband to have an extended family so she’s looking to find fault.  Her DH allows this.

its too bad yout parents in law have chosen to be their door-mats, but, it’s their choice.

forget her and her kids. 

Post # 7
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  I would just count nyself lucky that she didn’t show up. She doesn’t sound like a person one would want to spend time with anyhow.

Post # 8
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Sounds like she’s doing everybody a favor. It’s unfortunate that your decency is met with such dickish abrasiveness. Next time she doesn’t show, I wouldn’t acknowledge her absence at all. I’d carry on the evening as though she doesn’t exist when you have to deal with your brother-in-law.

Your parents-in-law sound like they’re desperately trying to buy the love and approval of these two goons. I saw a similar pattern with my paternal grandparents. My dad’s two brothers were absolutely narcissistic deadbeats. My grandma showered them with elaborate gifts, vacations and praise. For most of my dad’s life, I’ve watched as she’s routinely put him down whenever possible (“His hair is so ugly!” or “It’s his own fault!” for just about every problem the guy’s ever encountered…yet the other two can be drug addicts, blow all their money in a single night gambling, etc., and she runs to their aid).


My parents were the only kids who treated my grandparents decently, yet got treated like crap in return. Ah…family.

Post # 10
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@peachacid:  Ugh, she sounds like a nightmare.  Is it wrong that I’d be kind of relieved if she didn’t show up to stuff like this?  She thinks she’s being SUCH a martyr by making a cake and not coming, but I bet no one really missed her!

Post # 13
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@peachacid:  I’m sorry, I LOL’d at the meat thing.  She’s seriously a nutcase.  But I really don’t blame you for being so upset…it would drive me crazy as well.  I have NO tolerance for entitled jerks.

Post # 14
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@peachacid Wow she sounds like a crazy nutbag bitch.

Can you not invite her to any parties at your house and just start declining all invitations she gives to you guys? I mean yeah it’s not the best option but maybe then she’ll realize she’s being a bitch by doing the same thing to you. Her husband sounds like an asshole too.

Also HOW are the parents not seeing what dickwads they are being? I’d stop giving them money ASAP.

Post # 15
238 posts
Helper bee

@peachacid:  Maybe you just shouldb’t invite her anymore?

She sounds like a pain in the ass… 

I think the main issue is y’all have differing views on family dynamics. Maybe that’s why she thinks everyone is a bully. Still sounds like she exaggerates to get her way though!

Sadly, your in-laws are being sucked dry by these deadbeats. Lol don’t let their political views get to you. Every policial stance has it’s hypocrisy. 

I think the best thing you can do is to distance yourself. Clearly y’all aren’t very compatible, so it can’t help if you are forced to interact. Just remove her from fb if she’s so annoying! 

Distance works wonders is all I’m saying. Once the distance is created, there will only be one (usually the instigator that keeps egging on). Just sit back and watch her full colors come to light 🙂

Post # 16
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

What does your husband think about all this? Why doesn’t he speak to his parents?

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