Post # 1
Well, really just one set of them. My husband’s older brother is a dick. He and his wife think they’re better than everyone else. They have two kids, who are 5 and almost 2. The wife’s parents live close to us, but we’ve never been introduced. They’ve never met his parents!!!! Because his parents, or more specifically his dad, is “so offensive”. She has a problem with almost every single one of us. I am a bully because ONE TIME her son was running around, and I made a “bridge” with my arm and said, “What’s the magic word?” and he said, giggling, “Please!” That’s bullying. My husband’s mom is a bully because she was talking to the mom about the son and saying his way of telling stories was funny. My husband is a bully because he’s “gruff” with the kids. My father-in-law is “offensive” because he’s loud. NO ONE can please her. My husband’s brother sides with her EVERY SINGLE TIME, to the point where once he showed up at his father’s house to yell at him.
Here’s the thing that pisses me off, in addition to the horrible behavior…my husband’s father pays all their bills. He gave her a credit card to use. He helped them buy their house. He pays the brother to do work he doesn’t even do. He bought their cars. Everything. They wouldn’t have the life they do without him…and they treat him like dirt. It makes me SO ANGRY.
The other night was my husband’s birthday dinner. She went to all this trouble to make a cake and then didn’t show up. I asked her husband, “Oh, where’s so-n-so?” He responded, “Not here.” Um, okay asshole, that’s pretty fucking obvious. So I said, “Oh, is she okay?” He said, “Yes.” Apparently that’s her new thing — do something everyone has to thank her for, make a big deal abotu it, and then not show up to make a point that she just can’t handle her husband’s family.
ARGGGHHGHGHGHGHG. So annoyed.
Post # 3
@peachacid: Yikes, she sounds like a bit of a nightmare. I’d say if she doesn’t want anything to do with me, great! I wouldn’t want to deal with her either. It’s unfortunate that your husband’s parents are seemingly getting hosed financially, but if they want to keep supporting their son and his terror of a wife, that’s their perogative.
Post # 4
@PermaStudent: I know, I know, but we see his family so often that it comes up a lot.
Post # 5
@peachacid: Oh man! 🙁 Sorry to hear your frustrations!
Post # 6
@peachacid: Your SIL is a bitch who doesn’t want her husband to have an extended family so she’s looking to find fault. Her DH allows this.
its too bad yout parents in law have chosen to be their door-mats, but, it’s their choice.
forget her and her kids.
Post # 7
@peachacid: I would just count nyself lucky that she didn’t show up. She doesn’t sound like a person one would want to spend time with anyhow.
Post # 8
Sounds like she’s doing everybody a favor. It’s unfortunate that your decency is met with such dickish abrasiveness. Next time she doesn’t show, I wouldn’t acknowledge her absence at all. I’d carry on the evening as though she doesn’t exist when you have to deal with your brother-in-law.
Your parents-in-law sound like they’re desperately trying to buy the love and approval of these two goons. I saw a similar pattern with my paternal grandparents. My dad’s two brothers were absolutely narcissistic deadbeats. My grandma showered them with elaborate gifts, vacations and praise. For most of my dad’s life, I’ve watched as she’s routinely put him down whenever possible (“His hair is so ugly!” or “It’s his own fault!” for just about every problem the guy’s ever encountered…yet the other two can be drug addicts, blow all their money in a single night gambling, etc., and she runs to their aid).
My parents were the only kids who treated my grandparents decently, yet got treated like crap in return. Ah…family.
Post # 9
@CookieCreamCakes: I think what bugs me the most is that both of them constantly post very libertarian things on Facebook. Um…if you’re really a libertarian, then you should be making your OWN DAMN MONEY and not relying on HANDOUTS!!! ARGH. Or like they’ll post things that say, “No one wants to work hard anymore” and shit like that. *screams in frustration* *gets over it, as an adult ought to*
Post # 10
@peachacid: Ugh, she sounds like a nightmare. Is it wrong that I’d be kind of relieved if she didn’t show up to stuff like this? She thinks she’s being SUCH a martyr by making a cake and not coming, but I bet no one really missed her!
Post # 11
@sailor_girl: Well, yeah. But last year I missed her son’s birthday party because I was out of town (on a trip planned for a LONG time…she didn’t tell us about the party till the week of the event) and she threw a fit. SHE can miss whatever she wants, but if I dare to miss ANYTHING for her precious children…UGH.
I know I shouldn’t care this much, but it makes me SO MAD.
Post # 12
Oh oh I forgot another…she said my husband threatened to KILL HER CHILD…because he said, off-handedly, while eating a delicious piece of medium rare meat, “If anyone microwaves this, I’ll kill ’em!” She microwaves all her kids’ meat to overly well-done to make sure there are no germs. So she thought that meant he was threatening to KILL HER CHILD.
Post # 13
@peachacid: I’m sorry, I LOL’d at the meat thing. She’s seriously a nutcase. But I really don’t blame you for being so upset…it would drive me crazy as well. I have NO tolerance for entitled jerks.
Post # 14
@peachacid Wow she sounds like a crazy nutbag bitch.
Can you not invite her to any parties at your house and just start declining all invitations she gives to you guys? I mean yeah it’s not the best option but maybe then she’ll realize she’s being a bitch by doing the same thing to you. Her husband sounds like an asshole too.
Also HOW are the parents not seeing what dickwads they are being? I’d stop giving them money ASAP.
Post # 15
@peachacid: Maybe you just shouldb’t invite her anymore?
She sounds like a pain in the ass…
I think the main issue is y’all have differing views on family dynamics. Maybe that’s why she thinks everyone is a bully. Still sounds like she exaggerates to get her way though!
Sadly, your in-laws are being sucked dry by these deadbeats. Lol don’t let their political views get to you. Every policial stance has it’s hypocrisy.
I think the best thing you can do is to distance yourself. Clearly y’all aren’t very compatible, so it can’t help if you are forced to interact. Just remove her from fb if she’s so annoying!
Distance works wonders is all I’m saying. Once the distance is created, there will only be one (usually the instigator that keeps egging on). Just sit back and watch her full colors come to light 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
What does your husband think about all this? Why doesn’t he speak to his parents?