- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 1992
I don’t know what I’m hoping to accomplish by posting this. If anything, I’m embarrassed and ashamed of myself.
I’ll preface the story with this: I have a hair of mechanical inclination, especially for a woman. My FI came from a very well-to-do family, and they generally hire other people do handy-work things for them. Coming from a life of excessive privilege, his know-how in the real world only goes so far. When it comes to putting things together, he doesn’t really *try* to learn, just kind of looks at the heap of whatever it is that needs assembly, and says “I don’t know what to do!”
Enter me. I have a tool box. A hammer. A power drill. A SANDER! I MUST be an expert, right? I can get around, but I’d hardly label myself as such. But FI has another idea. Anyway, he looks to me to get things done. Plus the house-cleaning. Luckily he cooks, but I digress.
So we recently bought a home, and with a home comes a yard. We JUST bought a lawn mower not but 2 weeks ago. We got it home, and again, he looks at me, asks me to assemble it, and goes inside. So I did. I screwed the screws, tightended the bolts, set the settings, filled ‘er up with gas and oil, all set. Everything was fine, until yesterday when he went to mow the lawn (which I had to show him how to do). He got midway through the yard, when suddenly the mower sputtered. And then it just plain wouldn’t start. The chord didn’t even want to pull. We did what the manual said to try, to no avail.
We finally got to the shop today, and the tech looked at the oil tank. He said it was EMPTY! THE ENGINE WAS LOCKED AND RUINED! I was so upset. I PUT OIL IN IT! I’m not a mechanical genius, but oil should coat the line on the dipstick when you test the thing. This much I know. Ugh. According to Mr. Repair Technician, apparently, this isn’t good enough. You must gauge the color of the oil coating it. A thin veneer of oil on the dip stick apparently doesn’t cut it. I’m so embarrassed.
In my defense, the owner’s manual never at any point indicates HOW MUCH you need to initially add to the tank when you first purchase the thing. Had it said “add one full quart” or whatever the measurement is would have been ideal.
My ultimate point is: I feel a lot of pressure with these things resting on my head to be responsible for, and not but 2 weeks ago did I tell FI this in our pre-marriage counseling. I told him that I was scared I would fail at something, and it was a lot of pressure to deal with. I told him I needed his help, and I needed him to get engaged in learning to do things with me.
Now, if this isn’t a case in point, I don’t know what is. I suppose it’s a silver lining to the issue. He GETS it now, and was very reassuring today on the way home from dropping off the mower at the “hospital”. He promised to be more open to learning to do things for himself, and thusly being accountable along with me. That makes me feel better, but I’m still angry I voided our warantee on the stupid mower!