- 8 years ago
My Fiance and I decided back in January (after 5 years of dating and 3 years of living together) that we were ready to get married, and since that point have been making wedding plans without a ring. We went ring shopping a few times but never really found anything we loved.
Flash foward to April…My grandma gave me my great-grandma’s cocktail ring, and told me I could have the diamonds reset into an engagement setting if I wanted. I was SOOOO EXCITED because my grandma and I are really close and I know her mom meant a lot to her, so for her to pass this ring down to me was really special. (Because it matters later in the story, let me just say there is one “large” diamond that is a little more than 1/4 carat, and 10 smaller diamonds. It is plenty big enough for me, and the sentimental value is more important than size to me.)
Now, my mom and I have been to a jewelry store (FI works A LOT and my mom was having some jewelry made so she offered to go with me) a few times in the last week to design a ring with these diamonds, and we finally picked it up Saturday. (YAY!)
So, when I tried it on in the store to make sure it fit she said it was beautiful, and she liked it blah, blah, blah. Then, we got in the car and she said “Not that your diamond isn’t big enough because it’s plenty big enough for you, but putting it next to mine makes mine look huge.” (She has a 3/4 carat ring). As I’m typing this I realize it may not sound that bad, but the way she said it was kinda like “haha, mine’s bigger!” She also made a comment that she thinks my Fiance got off easy and didn’t have to spend a lot of money like he should have because we used my diamonds.
My mom and I are super close, and she has been bugging me non-stop about getting engaged for a few years, so I know she’s happy for me, but I couldn’t believe she said that. On top of that she has been acting funny about my Fiance. He decided he’d like to officially propose to me, so he doesn’t want me to wear the ring yet (which I’m fine with), and I told my mom he’ll probably make me wait a while because he knows I hate waiting (to open presents at Christmas and such). It’s just his way of being silly. She is SO mad about this! She thinks it’s rude of him and is just being b****y about the whole thing.
I don’t know if she’s mad that my grandma gave me the cocktail ring, and not her, or what. I just want her to get over whatever she is crabby about and go back to being her normal self. I don’t even like talking to her right now because I feel like I have to defend my Fiance all the time.