Post # 1
So, yesterday my bf told me about a friend calling his gf’s dad to ask for her hand and blah, blah, blah.
So this prompted me to ask if he had done this yet. He said no.
Then it lead to me asking if he had gone to look at rings yet…and he said he needed more money (he wants to pay cash).
This means that he will not be popping the q anytime soon. 🙁
I am super disappointed and very upset by this. Oh well, life goes on.
Post # 3
Maybe he is trying to throw you off? i mean he did speak of researching rings and all that right?
you guys have been together almost 5 years now and you have a trip coming up< does he know how badly you want this? are you two still very young? do you live together and do you have a time limit set for waiting?
Post # 4
Aww.. those talks are not fun. 🙁
I agree with audreysdance… I bet he is trying to throw you off. At least he is saving! He said he needs “more” money… so that means he has something going on!! Keep looking at all the little positive parts of your relationship and *try* really hard to not get upset at him.
It’s so hard and frustrating, but go on a date with Ben and Jerry with a good chick flick and a box of tissues and let it all out!! 🙂
Post # 5
@ audreysdance: Yeah…we have been together 4.5 years and are going to Mexico soon. That is why I asked bc that is when everone assumes it was going to happen. But I know he is a horrible liar and couldnt pull off an elaborate scheme like that. Plus my mother would know and blurt it out. (she is a horrible liar also).
@ piglet: I am not to the point of crying. He knows that I will not move in without a ring and my lease is up in a few months. If it doesnt happen by then…no sweat, I am still young and will move on with my life. I have a lot going for me. Haha. But it is a positive that he is starting to save. I am just not a patient gal.
Post # 6
Well all hope doesn’t seem to be gone. He said he needed more money but he didn’t say he wasn’t even thinking about rings. Perhaps he is waiting for your 5 year anniversary?
Are you both in your 20s?
Post # 7
He is early 30’s and I am mid 20s.
Oh yeah. He is definitely thinking about rings. And he knows he has to come up with something by the end of the summer or else I wont move in. So it is just a matter of making it through the summer without thinking about it too much.
I think everyone around me has just made such a big fuss about this trip being the time, I got my mindset stuck on that. Even he joked about it a couple months ago. Now that is almost here he is changing his tune.
Guys just dont realize how bad it makes the girl feel when they joke about that stuff.
Post # 8
I know exactly what you mean, and i think you are right on the money – guys don’t realize how it makes a girl feel when they say things like that. My bf did the same thing when we were booking a vacation (“wow, you might have a nice shiny piece of jewelry by the time we go!”) and then casually mentioned a week before that trip that he was still at least a few weeks or months away.
They don’t do it to be mean, obviously, they just don’t think about it! and his casually joking about it was probably his way of saying he’s excited, but now he realized he cant make it work in that time frame. It doesn’t make it any easier, but i’d just focus on the fact that the original joking about it was out of premature excitement, not a means to trick you into thinking something that wasn’t gonna happen. Hang in there!
Post # 9
Poor Lil Puggie! Waiting sucks huh? It does sound like you have a good idea when it will be coming though and I’d place bets that you will get it for sure.
That said, I know waiting is hard. Especially when you felt ready sooner. I was ready last year so to me every extra month is anxiety central. I feel its coming soon but I wish I knew when.
At least you have an end in sight. I hope you can enjoy your summer and I truly hope he surpises you and it comes sooner. Till then enjoy these last single days. Keep the FAITH!!!