Post # 1
I moved three hours away to live with my fiance. My daughter wanted to stay with my parents to finish school and go to summer school. I figured it would be okay even though I would miss having her with me however I knew how bored she would be at the new house during summer break while I was working, since she didn’t have any friends in the new town. She is 10. So she was finally done with summer school last week so I picked her up and now she is home. In the twoish months she was there she has put on 15 or so pounds and has become rude, entitled, bossy and straight up mean. 🙁 This will not be a very fun process to get her back on track. I’m sure I can get her attitude to change quickly however getting her to loose weight will be the difficult part. I talked to her about healthy eating and she started crying. I know she feels bad about the weight and I don’t want her to have low self esteem. Needless to say she won’t be staying with my parents for more than a night anymore.
Post # 3
@jessdoxy: Awww sorry to hear that 🙁 She is so young that I don’t know if you really need to talk to her about her weight or health- I think you can just determine what she eats by only keeping healthy food in the house and limiting the ways she can get to unhealthy food.
Post # 4
@jessdoxy: If it makes you feel any better about the weight, my nephews were with their dad this summer and gained 15 pounds and 10 pounds, but also grew 2 inches and 1.5 inches. Did she grow at all?
Post # 5
Yikes I wouldn’t go too hard on the weight issue with a 10 year old. Is it possible it was just a normal growth spurt and not just her eating a ton of crap? You still have control over what she eats, so make sure it’s healthy. Encourage her to get outside and play and be active. Maybe you can take family bike rides or walks at night? Maybe you guys can offer to get outside and play with her if she doesn’t have any friends at the moment.
Post # 7
Your Mom didn’t ruin our child. I trust you only chose that word to be dramatic. Ifyou really feel that way, you will have a hard time not communicating that to your daughter.
Your Mom may have made some wrong decisions trying to avoid being a disciplinarian to your daughter. Now that she is home, she will quickly become her usual self.
Post # 6
@jessdoxy: I am not judging here however, she is 10 she should know what is healthy and what isn’t and no one forced her to eat while at your mom’s. So I wouldn’t be so quick to judge on your mom on that.
I know when my niece was that age she knew exactly what was crap food and what wasn’t. She stays at my parents place every summer and always wants grandma to take her to get “healthy food”. This kid loves her veggies! She eats the crap food to but not very often.
Post # 8
Oh man, what a tough thing to be 10, have your mom leave to go live with her new man, and then when you finally go with her to your new home (with a new school) she comments on your weight. Are you sure she isn’t depressed or more upset about everything that has gone down. I know my 11 year old would have a really hard time dealing with all of that.
Post # 9
How mean to judge OP on her daughter’s weight issue. Being overweight when you are ten years old is a big deal and needs to be fixed ASAP before it becomes permanent weight. Do you guys not know all the risks of being obese?
I’m with you, OP. Best of luck and I’m sorry, she’ll get back on track quickly!
Post # 10
@Sassygrn: when you are ten you eat what is served to you and what is allowed, come on.
Post # 12
I’m not judging you because your daughter gained weight. And I certainly wont judge your mom for that either. However, you should go easy on her. She just moved away from her friends and family. She’s most likely feeling extremely depressed and is exhibiting lash out behavior becuase of it.
If she likes to play a sport, I’d get her signed up for one that she loves. Or, go on walks around your neighborhood to explore. Help her see the positives in her new town before school starts.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
Your child isn’t ruined! Yes, she needs to get back on track in terms of healthy eating and portions, and you will guide her, of course. But far from ruined…
Post # 14
This sounds like a byproduct of a bigger emotional issue.
Post # 15
@jessdoxy: I wouldn’t really bother talking about anything weight related. Just prepare her foods for her or be mindful while grocery shopping not to bring junk into the house. Limit the amount of sugary drinks you bring home. Find movement oriented activities to do with her that she can get excited about (bike rides, roller blading, a martial arts class, hiking, volunteer work, whatever you want)
She’s way too young to be weight concious.
Post # 16
@bebero: +1. At 10, I had no input for meal planning/grocery lists?