Post # 1
I’m literally vibrating I’m so mad right now. I did some free interior design work for a friend of FI’s in exchange for his family loaning us all of our dishware, glassware, and silverware for the wedding from their banquet hall. I literally devoted HOURS of time to their home (and his wife who is lovely but made me insane) so that we could save these few hundred dollars. If I had billed for what I did for her, it would have been upwards of $2000, so they were getting a good deal. I sent them a list of everything we needed, how many of each, etc about two months ago. Today I sent an email to firm things up and the wife calls and says how she thinks the stuff they have won’t look nice (I saw it and it’s fine) and that it’s probably not a good idea. Seriously? Five weeks before my wedding, not TWO MONTHS AGO?! She’s concerned about transporting it and she won’t let me talk to tell her we were hiring a couple of guys and a truck to pick stuff up/drop things off, etc. When I finally do tell her, she’s concerned about insurance and what if it all breaks, etc. So I was like okay, screw this, I told Fiance at the beginning this wasn’t going to pan out and I was right.
I think she felt bad and she says “Well we haven’t gotten your gift yet, so we were thinking maybe we could help with this….”. I didn’t even know what to say. All I could get out was “Ummm well that’s very generous of you, but I don’t even know what to say to you right now. I’m going to have to call the rental company and try to figure this out……”. I’m freaking furious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the heck is wrong with people?! This isn’t a kids birthday party, it’s my f-ing wedding! Don’t call yourself a friend and then just break your promises. Freaking jerks!!!! UGH!
Sorry. I feel better for getting it out. I see her point about the insurance, etc, but like give me 5 minutes to sort that out, it was FI’s to deal with and I’m sure he would have made sure everything was safe and insured for worst case scenario. It just seemed from the start they had no intention of following through with their part of the deal. I knew this was going to happen. I’m totaly kicking myself.
Post # 3
I’d bill them for the work I did then, to be quite honest. Sounds rude, but they can’t expect to get something for nothing!
Post # 4
@MandaMack: I’m really thinking about it. I’m going to let Fiance handle this when he gets back from his guys trip this weekend. I totally don’t trust myself. I didn’t know these people very well (FI’s friends), so it’s not like when I typically help friends out for no charge and it’s a fun project. UGH!!!!!
Post # 5
aw that really stinks! Why would someone do that?!
I hope you get it all figured out. Instead of them “helping out” with the rentals they should cover the rentals
Edit- i was going to suggest billing them too but i didnt know how well you know them.
Post # 6
I agree with the PP, if you bartered design work for the rentals you need and you aren’t getting your end of the barter.. then they owe you. Period.
Post # 8
@mishelleez: I think they should pay for them too, but how am I supposed to say that to them?! “Hey ya, you screwed me, here’s the bill for the stuff we had to rent because you’re a jerk!”. UGH! It’s an impossible position.
Post # 9
Oh that is just not cool! She must of been feeling this way for awhile now, why wouldn’t she have voiced her reservations then? I do understand her point, but there is a way to figure that stuff out. I think you guys should try to figure out a plan B as opposed to trying to sell them on the idea. It sounds like it’ll be too much of a hassle to deal with them. I’m so sorry you did all that work for them only to be shafted in the end 🙁
Post # 10
That totally sucks. I’m sorry you have to deal with that. I want you to call her and tell her she owes you $2,000 for the interior design work you did! Geez!! I can’t believe she waited this long to tell you!
Post # 12
Ugh – that stinks! I’m frustrated for you!
They really should cover the cost of the rentals since they’ve left you high and dry. Either that, or you should bill them for your work.
What is wrong with people?!
Post # 13
I agree with everyone else. Seriously, she should hold up her end of the bargain, and if not, she owes you the money for all the work you did.
Post # 14
You should totally look into your back-up options and bill them for your services to them. This was a TOTAL bait and switch and that is NOT ok! I totally feel for you right now.
Maybe have your Fiance contact them and get more info? This is rediculous.
Post # 15
I think that you should call her and say that you understand her concerns about her dinnerware, and that becuase she isn’t able to loan it to you, you are going to be billing her for the work you did. Then, take the money she pays you and use it to rent your dinnerware. She can’t just use you like that. She has to pay you for your services if she isn’t going to hold up her end of the bargain.
Post # 16
I whole heartedly agree with PP’s..Bill Her! Regardless of how well you know her. She did this to you, knowing full well what the agreement was. If she’s not going to follow through on her half, then that’s absolutely fine. She will be billed for your services. end of discussion with her!