Post # 1
So before my FI proposed I had just started doing weight watchers, I’ve strugged with my weight all my life and tend to be very sensitive about it…
My FIs best man, who I’ve known my basically my whole life (he was best friends with my borther growing up) got drunk on the weekend (as ususal) and proceeded to tell me that I need to tone my arms for the wedding to look my best.
Then said “oh what have you lost? like 10 pounds?”
ACTUALLY I’ve lost 35 pounds and was feeling great about the way I’m looking… Thanks for knocking me down.
Not really looking for suggestions just needed to vent!
Post # 3
@FutureMrsKenward: Uh, that man is a douche bag.
You will be beautiful on your wedding day regardless of what you do or don’t do to your arms!
Post # 4
@Treejewel19: Thank you! my FI was extremly upset when I told him and spent the whole night telling me how beautiful I am and will be on our wedding day.
Just still bugs me ya know?
Post # 5
@FutureMrsKenward: What an idiot. I can just imagine the drunken mess that he was.
Pay him no attention. 35 pounds is a BIG DEAL. Congrats on losing all that weight!! Hell, I’m trying to lose 5 pounds for my shower dress that I bought over the summer when I was a little smaller (damn holidays), and I’m having a hard time doing that. I love food too damn much.
Post # 6
@FutureMrsKenward: I just looked at your engagement photos and I think you’re beautiful! You should be so proud of how far you’ve come. There will always be that one person to try to burst your bubble, but please don’t let them get you down. Your FI obviously thinks you are are beautiful, and some other jerks opinion shouldn’t mean anything. You’re gorgeous and don’t deserve negative comments!
Post # 7
@FutureMrsKenward: People sometimes have NO IDEA how many pounds makes a difference on someone, or what “ten pounds” means or whatever. I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
Post # 8
@FutureMrsKenward: No, I get it. Even douche bags can get under our skin, especially when we are already sensitive to the topic at hand.
I hate my arms too. I work on them like crazy, I am strong and yet I hate the way they look. Just a fact. If someone said something nasty about them it would hurt me too. Here’s the thing though not ONE person has commented on my arms. Instead they have told me how amazing my wedding was (still, 18 months later) and it was featured in two magazines. Thankfully your arms, legs, pant size etc doesn’t change the face that you will be an absolutely beautiful bride. That is all anyone will think too! Even Mr. Douche Bag. 😉
Post # 9
@FutureMrsKenward: I’m impressed with your self-control. I would have hit that douche pickle right in the face.
Post # 10
You are gorgeous. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
Post # 11
@Link1965: Thank you so much! I loved the pictures.
@KittyCatToe: LOL my FI said that too!! “Should have punched him in the face” haha
Post # 12
Idiot. Don’t pay attention to him. 35 lbs is HUGE accomplishment and a lot of work to lose. Clueless man.
Post # 13
@FutureMrsKenward: That drunk asshole! Don’t take it personally, though. Most people can’t tell a 35lb weight loss by sight. It’s all just “Oh, she lost weight!”
Post # 14
@FutureMrsKenward: guys can be assholes. i lost 30 lbs before my wedding and it was noticeable. i went from a size 10 to a size4. His groomsman heard me mention that my dress has to be drastically altered. He looked at me all confused and was like “wait you lost weight” it’s like thanks jerk! Haha you look great in your e-pics and will lookf fabulous on your wedding day! Just remember it doesn’t matter what he thinks!
Post # 15
Wow, that’s a really insensitive thing to say. I’m sorry you had to experience that. Pay no heed to that guy!
That said, it’s really hard for some people to notice those kinds of differences (weight loss, haircut, etc.). I am, unfortunately, one of those people… A couple of years ago my dad lost almost 50 lbs, and I actually didn’t notice. Yeah, I know, that’s kind of awful of me… But it was a gradual process, and I guess I just sort of forgot what he looked like before, if that makes sense. When I look at pictures of him from a couple of years ago and now, the difference is really noticeable. It was just harder to tell while it was happening. I’ve also not noticed my mom/friends getting haircuts several times *blushes* but maybe some people are just blind to that kind of thing? He probably didn’t mean to be so rude, is what I mean.
Beauty isn’t about numbers, it’s about happiness and confidence. If you’ll look anything like your engagement photos on your wedding day, you’ll be the prettiest person in the room by far. 🙂