Post # 1
I don’t know what to do.
I’m getting married in November and my bridesmaids are like, uninterested. We don’t even have their dresses yet.
They ignore my facebook messages and text messages about getting together, discussing the wedding plans, picking out the dresses (which we either need to buy off the rack or put a rush order on which costs extra). I know they don’t have much money (we’re college students) but I found dresses for like 25 dollars…and can’t they borrow that much money or something? We really need to get the dresses!
I didn’t ask either of them (I just have 2. It’s a small wedding) to be bridesmaids…they just volunteered. They are my two best friends. At first they seemed so excited (and that was only two months ago) but now it’s like they don’t care at all.
I’m really hurt and I don’t know what to do anymore…
Post # 3
You should probably call them instead of just writing messages. Who knows why they aren’t responding, maybe thye didn’t realize how much money being a Bridesmaid or Best Man involves or somehtng. You won’t know until you ask them.
Post # 5
@Atalanta: I’ve considered calling, but I just feel hurt right now because they haven’t responded to five different messages. And I told them about all the dresses Dillard’s has right now for 25 dollars. That’s all I’m asking them to spend. I don’t think that’s really that much money.
Post # 6
I’m sorry that they are being unresponsive, and I know that’s hurtful, but you can continue writing about them not responding to you or you can call them and actally try to get some answers, take your pick.
Post # 7
I think sometimes when one friend gets married and the others arent in the phase yet theres a lot of jealousy or they get overwhelmed with hearing about your wedding. Go out to lunch with them just to chill out and try not to talk wedding till the end and then say if your still wanting to be in the wedding is there anyway you could try on this dress today? and mention that its only 25 and if you wait much longer the next one you have picked out cost more. should get their attention. sorry they arent being more supportive i had similiar problems.
Post # 8
@kelz12106: Thanks for the advice, I’m sorry you had problems too.
Post # 9
I’m having the same problem with two of my bridesmaids! They still haven’t gotten their dresses and the wedding is 26 days away!! 🙁
Post # 10
Give them a call and see what they have to say
Post # 11
@ThePrincessMaggie: Maybe it is time you formally ask them if they want to be bridesmaids or not. Ask them in person or on the phone. Give them the details of when they’ll need their dress by and the cost of the dress. Give them other details they need to know like when they need to be around (rehearsal dinner) and about accessories, hair and makeup. Give them a deadline to respond to you. If they say yes and are all for it, GREAT. But, be polite and understand if they say no. It may just not be their thing to stand before a group of people with attention on them, they may hate having their photo taken, it may be a monetary issue, it may be jealousy because they wish they were getting married. Whatever the reason let them know they matter to you and accept their decision.
Post # 12
@ThePrincessMaggie: Yes ignoring your texts and facebook is wierd and rude of them but as for stressing over not having the dresses, there is time. I am getting married the same day you are and mine arent getting their dresses until just after school starts… plus if they start looking now its after graduation and lots will be on sale, and after the after school rush slows down is a good time too… But I would get down to the why they are ignoring you part first. They dont deserve to be bridesmaids if they are going to be like that.