Post # 1
partly a rant. You try so hard to prevent unwanted add-ons. Whether you went the “We have reserved __ seats in your honor” route, or prefilled in the names, you can always count on at least one person not getting the rather obvious hint.
I’m going to let this one slide, because its my sister/BM and she hadn’t told me she was seeing someone. But everyone else better have a darn good excuse for not at least calling to ask before adding someone on.
Post # 2
CoastieWifeToBe: Some people just don’t get that they ARE the guest. They don’t get to INVITE the guests.
Post # 3
CoastieWifeToBe: I’ll join you in the rant.
We have three guest-invited guests. It isn’t the added cost, it’s the whole feel of the wedding – my FI and I are both shy and we felt very strongly about only inviting people we already knew. I hate the idea that there are guests we will both be meeting at our wedding.
Post # 4
@julies1949 – +1 !!
I had not one but two guests decide to add on their own guests…they were not invited with an “and guest”. We allowed it but anyone that heard this said how disrespectful it was to assume without even asking if they could do this (they are not family nor my best best friends so we were taken back by it not to mention that they both know each other and others that will be there- not that they would be alone).
Post # 5
CoastieWifeToBe: I’m with you- it has been making me CRAZY! I have had people ask over text and facebook to bring a guest (to be fair, one person is dating someone and I didn’t know it, but I see the other people frequently and they are not!) and another person just wrote in a plus one. For the person who just wrote it in, it’s a guy in our group of friends and we knew he was kind of seeing someone, but she never really came around and all the friends are invited, so it isn’t like he would be bored. I conceded and said okay, only for him to tell me that they broke up, then was like, “I guess I’ll just bring my sister.” My head literally almost exploded. No, you don’t get to sub in your sister (whom I’ve never met) when you weren’t given a plus one to begin with! AHHHH!
Basically, I feel your pain.
Post # 6
Back before I sent these out, my mother had been ‘word of mouth inviting’ anyone and everyone that shares DNA with us. (Obv. I made her clean up her mess when she invited people that weren’t actually on the list) Then she informed me that my cousin (invited with her 2 kids) would be bringing her boytoy (never even heard of him). I told her she’d have to call me when I sent out invites and ask, otherwise he wouldn’t be allowed in. Moms head about exploded. I’m not going to have people I have never heard of at MY wedding. He can come to the next family reunion if he’s still around.