Ugh, think I'm losing a friend.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

No you don’t suck. Just get ready bc my hubs comes home from work a lot (also law enforemt) and theres always some in house relationship going on…. a bunch of times not allowed… Same stations higher rank and lower on the totem pole relationships.

 

try not to get involved at all. It can get you jammed up as well

Post # 4
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@newcitylights:  I honestly don’t think you need a friend like that…JS because that isn’t quality and I am SURE you could find better

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@newcitylights:  Woah. You don’t suck at all. It’s not your job to cover up her actions. Friends don’t put friends in compromising situations. 

I agree, it’s really hard to find friends after college (definitely struggling here) but it sounds like you can do better!

Post # 6
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490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

People will see what they want to see and think what they want to think, no matter what the truth is.  I’ve learned from past experience that, in the long run, it’s pointless to chase after someone brandishing the truth if they’re determined to believe something else.

I’m sorry you’re losing a friend because she won’t believe you.  It’s shitty.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Payless:  

+1 Your friends should reflect who you are. 

Why get tied up with someone who thinks it is okay to sleep with a married man?

I am far from perfect, but there are some things I won’t accept in the people I associate with. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@newcitylights:  Honestly, a girl like this sounds like nothing but trouble. Do you really want to spend your time listening to her drama over sleeping with married men? I definitely wouldn’t….

Also ~ if you’re just starting a professional career, I wouldn’t want to be associated with her either. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@newcitylights:  I can’t imagine why on earth you would want to be friends with this person. She’s trash and she’s lashing out at you for her stupid, immoral, unethical choices.

Both she and that instructor should be fired. I hope someone turned them in.

Post # 10
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502 posts
Busy bee

It sounds to me like she knows it’s her fault and is just shunting responsibility off to you. Fairweather friend indeed!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@newcitylights:  Lady! You don’t suck. She sounds like a crappy person, and I know you can find a better friend than that. I’d say cut your losses and move on.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

@newcitylights:  She’s an idiot if she thinks she can behave like that and no one will think anything of it. She sounds pretty unstable to me, and seeking attention in all the wrong places.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

You are not at fault. Your friend kinda had it coming. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

She caused all of her own problems, not you. 

She did you a favor by not talking to you anymore, in my opinion. It seems like being friends with her would way more trouble than it’s worth. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee

Nope you don’t suck, we’ve all been there. To keep it from getting messy, I’d just play dumb, and avoid talking about any subject other than work business with her. 

I agree with weatherbug if you’re starting your career, she’s not someone that you want as your buddy. Coworkers may assume that you guys are both “doing” the same type of activities. 

It is hard making friends but you’ve got whole board of bees here and I’m sure you can find someone in your area to chat it up with. There are meet-ups and social groups. Striking up a conversation with a stranger seems less risky than this girl. Good Luck 🙂


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