- 3 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
I know this isn’t really my business because it isn’t my life and I can’t tell him what to do and I need to support him but I really need to vent about my idiot best friend.
So in high school I was super close to Sarah she was my best friend. I also had a friend named Will, not as close but still very close. During our junior year and his senior they started hanging out with me together and I encouraged a relationship. They started dating and fell in love, and so on. After graduation he stayed at his part time job and did nothing else. Fast forward to after Sarah and I graduating they are still together and they decide to join the air force together. Well after they were assigned to basic camps they realized they would not be able to be together without getting married. At this point I was closer to him because she was kind of turning into a bitch. So I was supportive of their marriage but secretly wary because they didn’t seem the same and let’s face they it were 18 and 19, really young and somewhat immature. A big issue for me was that they were only a few hours apart and instead of buying a car to visit each other when possible she wanted a $10,000 ring, that shows priorities in their new married life. Well they go off to basic and I keep in touch with him and don’t really talk to her. Basic goes by and they get their orders to go to Japan. A week before they leave she comes clean about having an affair with a man she met at basic and wants to be with him. I obviously “take his side” since her and I had grown distant and I am not OK with cheaters.
So they decide to split after being married for 3 months. They take off to Japan separately but are at the same base of course. The hate that came from this divorce was ridiculous, they had to see each other almost every day because she worked the gate and he had to leave base a lot. He complained to me daily about her for hours, they were constantly posting shit on each other’s Facebook pages, their families also got in on the FB stuff. Their divorce took almost TWO years, two years of all this hate. After the divorce he complained about her but not as much. She was with the other guy all throughout the divorce.
A few months after the divorce he tells me they had been secretly dating for a week and he is only telling me because he doesn’t want to hear shit from other people. I was speechless what the hell do I say to this stupidity? I say I hope you’re happy and everything works out. Then I found out she was getting deployed in 2 weeks for 6 months. I ask if he is ok with them being long distance again and he says not really but he can’t do anything about it. Right before they leave they “came out” on Facebook, this was his post… “I love you so much baby. I’ll miss you!!! But don’t worry 6 months got nothin on us!!!!!” My thought was she only lasted like a week last time you were long distance but whatever I continue to stay silent.
So while she was gone he tells me all this stuff about how they are taking it slow and he doesn’t want to get hurt again blah blah blah. I do my best to be supportive and give him confidence in his odd relationship wondering how he can go back to her after some of things they said and did to each other.
Well now she has been back for about 6 weeks, they’re all lovey dovey all over Facebook, I try to ignore it and try to keep the conversation off their relationship because it just ticks me off. Then he logs on tonight “Alyssa you are one of very few people that know this, Sarah and got married yesterday. We aren’t telling many people because of our past but plan on a wedding when we are state side and we will tell everyone then.”
What in the hell do I say to that??????
I said congrats and logged out…
I just don’t know how to keep my thoughts to myself at this point, I feel like he is being an idiot for going through a two year divorce of hate and as soon as she breaks up with this other guy she runs back to him and he welcomes her with open arms. Is love that blind?