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I think you need to apologize to your boss, because if I was your manager I would probably fire you. Work sucks, no one wants to be there, but you have to be respectful. You can't just start cussing, storm out and expect to keep your job. That just can't happen.
After that, I think you need to schedule a day off and sleep, go get your nails done, do nothing and read a book, take yourself out to lunch or something. Everyone needs a mental vacation sometimes. I have off days for sure sometimes, I'm pregnant with an autistic preschooler, so sometimes I feel like shutting down. And when I feel I've hit my limit I take a break. Usually I'm sleep deprived.
@RAWR.its.BREN: Chillax, lady! It'll be ok. Everyone has their ups and downs. Why don't you go out for a run, or pick up a yoga dvd to burn off some extra energy in a constructive way?
If you don't feel like sweating, don't forego relaxation. Hop in a nice hot bath with some candles and your favorite book.
Try not to dwell too deeply on the work issue, but if you can't seem to dismiss it from your mind, you can call your boss and offer an apology. I think the boss deserves it. (S)he will probably understand a little better if you were the bigger person and proactively tell him / her that you acted inappropriately. The sooner you do it, the better it will be for you tomorrow. But remember to be kind to yourself so you can be kind to others in your daily life.
she's just like me, she isn't mad...i did text her to talk it out and she said she totally would have left too. she was swearing with me all day so its not like it was a complete random out break...she understood. I dont get anytime to calm down, I am just wound really tight right now but I don't know why lol.
where the heck do you work where swearing all day at the workplace is acceptable?
i have meltdown days, thankfully i can close my office door and hide from the world - take a day to regroup, apologize and move on
I work with teenagers and middle aged adults that are mad they work there. It happens. Everyone there is always texting and standing around complaining. The joys of a small town fast food job. Try it one day, you'd understand.
Try it one day, you'd understand
good god no! i freely admit i couldnt manage a checkout chick or retail job!
Yikes. Sometimes people swear at my job but for the most part it's very professional. If I pulled this I would be fired. Yeeesh.
No I keep my personal life from my professional life. I hope he doesn't suspend you or fire you.
This is when I schedule a day off or call out sick and take a mental health day. When I feel like freaking out I know I need out of there for just a little, no matter what the job. Take a break and you will feel better. And dont say you cant take a break...you need one, so make it happen!
If this happens frequently and for no reason and with no trigger, I suggest going to see a doctor. It sounds like you may be in need of some medication or at the very least, some therapy. This sort of behavior is NOT acceptable in any capacity under any conditions. You don't have the right to take your hormonal inbalance or anger issues out on other people, much less the person you're supposed to be spending the rest of your life with.
If you ever behaved that way and I overheard it, you'd be out the door without a second thought. I suggest apologizing to your Manager and then looking for another job. There's no way a good Manager would keep you around with an attitude like that.
@ViaMinorViator: I disagree with your last statement completely - a GOOD manager would try to figure out why you are having the problem you are having and what led to this behaviour, and would try to work with their employee to find a solution. A GOOD manager would be aware of their employee's change in behaviour and would be trying to analyze workplace stressers that might be contributing to uncharacteristic behaviours.
Firing someone off the bat would be a common and knee-jerk reaction - but a good manager can see the bigger picture of the workplace and would be focused on creating positive long term solutions for their staff rather than antagonizing them outright.
As the OP said, her manager finds the same situations similarly stressful and as I understand it, wasn't directing her frustration at her manager but rather the situation - managers have to deal with the same stressful people and situations as their employees do, especially in service and retail positions, a good manager would be understanding, to a limit of course, but understanding and constructive nonetheless.
I take it back when I said I was the biggest bitch in the world. Sheesh :) Absolutely nothing bad happened to me because of what I said, everyone there blows up, it happens. My managers are all worse then me, I have the most unprofessional work environment I've ever seen, do I like it, god no. but it starts to rub off on you and even the most professional people will snap. Honestly, the majority of you are just really judgmental and that's annoying. Also, how about you don't push pills on people, that's the biggest crock of crap I've ever heard. Last time I ask for any kind of emotional advice.
@RAWR.its.BREN: So far, you're angry with people at work, your FI, and everyone on this board. Have you considered the fact that the only common denominator is you?
Look I didn't post this so everyone could trash on me, I posted because I wanted to vent, I wanted to hear constructive ways to calm down. I am young and bull headed, I'm opinionated and mouthy, but why shouldn't I be? There are instances where being mature just doesn't happen. Attacking me on an emotional level is worse than anything I said to my boss. So please, grow up all of you. And if you read my post it said I was fighting with my FI, it didn't say anything about me starting the fight, he called me some hurtful things in the fight we had and he absolutely started it. So the "common denominator" is people shitting on me I suppose.
@RAWR.its.BREN: Wow, just came back to this post from your most recent. You are right, you were thrown through the ringer. No, I don't think people should act like that in their workplace, but you made this orginal post for support and everyone ignored your main concerns. I am sorry that happened to you. I think you need to find an outlet -- exercise works for me!
Dang! Everybody's being pretty harsh tonight.
When I'm in a bitchy mood and I need to get back to being a normal human being, I like to do yoga. Or go running. I feel like pushing my body and focusing on the physical stress helps get rid or some of the mental ickyness...plus the endorphins make you feel better!
Also, there are tons of awesome books out there to help pick you up! My fiance is currently reading "Spontaneous Happiness" by Dr. Andrew Weil, and he's really enjoying it. I think the book I read that made me happiest was "The Happiness Project."
Like I think someone else said, try taking a bath and having a little talk with yourself. Remind yourself about all the things in life that make you happy. Then eat a cupcake.
Thanks ladies :) This was what I wanted from this originally, but my attitude was all that people seemed to focus on. No one offered any help. It's okay though.
I gotta admit every blur moon I have days like this. Distance ure self from ppl for a couple days to not create more damage and more drama bc it will make u angrier. Then take time for ure self to center ure self. For me my outlook sometimes escalates the amount of stress and anxiety. Try and do things that make u happy for a couple days n just for ure self, remember to breath and that having hope that it will get better hopefully turn things around.
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*sigh* maybe I am just the biggest bitch alive. My fiance and I fight, I go to work everyone's rude and obnoxious, I just snap and start swearing telling my boss it's time for me to get off so i am f'ing leaving. I clock off and just walk out. i'm mortified with the way I acted, I just hope nothing bad comes from this out break. I am usually way more composed, even if I'm pissed beyond words I can handle myself. I am just really emotional right now, I have no idea what's wrong with me! My fiance told me I was crazy last night and I just started crying and tell him he's a huge ass and blah blah blah. I'm not really even stressed out, I don't know what's making me feel like such a mess! Do any of you ladies ever go through this? It's not that time of the month, in fact I don't even have that time of the month! lol I never have random bitch fits. *sigh* I'm just feeling overwhelmed with emotion for no good reason.
I suppose I've had a stressful couple of months, i lost my job and got a horrible low paying, part time, fast food job simply because i couldn't find anything else. The job stresses me out, it's easy, but the people sometimes just make me so angry. I suppose I could just be holding everything in an that's why i'm upset? Who knows. I need a spa day! lol