(Closed) UGH! why am I so upset all the time?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I think you need to apologize to your boss, because if I was your manager I would probably fire you. Work sucks, no one wants to be there, but you have to be respectful. You can’t just start cussing, storm out and expect to keep your job. That just can’t happen.

After that, I think you need to schedule a day off and sleep, go get your nails done, do nothing and read a book, take yourself out to lunch or something. Everyone needs a mental vacation sometimes. I have off days for sure sometimes, I’m pregnant with an autistic preschooler, so sometimes I feel like shutting down. And when I feel I’ve hit my limit I take a break. Usually I’m sleep deprived.

Post # 4
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@RAWR.its.BREN:  Chillax, lady! It’ll be ok. Everyone has their ups and downs. Why don’t you go out for a run, or pick up a yoga dvd to burn off some extra energy in a constructive way?

If you don’t feel like sweating, don’t forego relaxation. Hop in a nice hot bath with some candles and your favorite book.

Try not to dwell too deeply on the work issue, but if you can’t seem to dismiss it from your mind, you can call your boss and offer an apology. I think the boss deserves it. (S)he will probably understand a little better if you were the bigger person and proactively tell him / her that you acted inappropriately. The sooner you do it, the better it will be for you tomorrow. But remember to be kind to yourself  so you can be kind to others in your daily life.

Post # 6
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

where the heck do you work where swearing all day at the workplace is acceptable? 

i have meltdown days, thankfully i can close my office door and hide from the world – take a day to regroup, apologize and move on

Post # 8
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Try it one day, you’d understand

good god no!  i freely admit i couldnt manage a checkout chick or retail job!

Post # 9
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yikes. Sometimes people swear at my job but for the most part it’s very professional. If I pulled this I would be fired. Yeeesh.

Post # 10
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No I keep my personal life from my professional life. I hope he doesn’t suspend you or fire you.

Post # 11
3801 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

This is when I schedule a day off or call out sick and take a mental health day. When I feel like freaking out I know I need out of there for just a little, no matter what the job. Take a break and you will feel better. And dont say you cant take a break…you need one, so make it happen!

Post # 12
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

If this happens frequently and for no reason and with no trigger, I suggest going to see a doctor.  It sounds like you may be in need of some medication or at the very least, some therapy.  This sort of behavior is NOT acceptable in any capacity under any conditions.  You don’t have the right to take your hormonal inbalance or anger issues out on other people, much less the person you’re supposed to be spending the rest of your life with.  

If you ever behaved that way and I overheard it, you’d be out the door without a second thought.  I suggest apologizing to your Manager and then looking for another job.  There’s no way a good Manager would keep you around with an attitude like that.  

Post # 13
79 posts
Worker bee

@ViaMinorViator:  I disagree with your last statement completely – a GOOD manager would try to figure out why you are having the problem you are having and what led to this behaviour, and would try to work with their employee to find a solution. A GOOD manager would be aware of their employee’s change in behaviour and would be trying to analyze workplace stressers that might be contributing to uncharacteristic behaviours.

Firing someone off the bat would be a common and knee-jerk reaction – but a good manager can see the bigger picture of the workplace and would be focused on creating positive long term solutions for their staff rather than antagonizing them outright.

As the OP said, her manager finds the same situations similarly stressful and as I understand it, wasn’t directing her frustration at her manager but rather the situation  – managers have to deal with the same stressful people and situations as their employees do, especially in service and retail positions, a good manager would be understanding, to a limit of course, but understanding and constructive nonetheless.

Post # 15
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@RAWR.its.BREN:  So far, you’re angry with people at work, your Fiance, and everyone on this board.  Have you considered the fact that the only common denominator is you?

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