Post # 1
Let me start this off by saying I know this isn’t THAT important. But writing it out might help me feel less stressed out. Our wedding is in less than 5 months and we started planning about a year ago. Thats when I came up with our theme (which is a tuscan/italian type thing) and our colors to go with, dark red and ivory. My FI was good with these decisions and was excited about it. Now, he’s complaining about it. He says red doesn’t look good on him (not true) and he wants purple, his favorite color. The bridesmaids dresses, STDs, and the decor I’ve already ordered are the red color! He wants a purple bow tie and vest, which will clash. PLUS his mom says the MOG dress has to match the groom, so she’ll be in purple too. I dont like the idea of adding purple to the colors. It seems too “red hat” ladies for my taste. I want him to have what he wants of course, but I’m frustetated he waited this long to bring it up. Idk what I’ll do exactly, just needed to complain a bit!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
I think red and purple can go together wonderfully if done right. We’re doing winter Jewels/Beauty and the Beast. Our colors will be Amethyst, Ruby, Emerald, and Ivory. The women will have deep purple dresses the flowers red, purple, and ivory wrapped in green. The men will wear green ties and vests, their boutineres will be red and purple. So it can be done if its done subtly.
Post # 4
Purple is very much a tuscan/italian color so I too think it will look fine.
DH did something similar. My colors were light peach, ivory and lavender (based on the bridesmaid dresses; we didn’t have a theme). After everything was picked out he told me how much he hates peach. Too late!
Everything turned out fine and not once did he complain about the colors 🙂
Post # 5
@thisorderistall: Pull from your own theme and you’ll be fine. Google “Tuscan landscape” and more times than not you’ll find some purple in there among the red, ivory and green. I think you can manage it with either a deep aubergine or lavender, and using ivory to balance against the red. Plus, you’ll have some greenery to break it up. Use the aubergine or lavender sparingly in the ties for the groom and groomsmen as he suggested, and elsewhere just as little, little touches in your decor. I’m sure if you keep it to a minimum you can make your FI happy, stick to your Tuscan theme, and still be faaaaaar from the red hat ladies.
Post # 6
I would have loved purple of it was from the beginning. I’m too simple though, I can’t seem to make multiple non-nuetral colors together work. I just don’t know!
Post # 7
I think a wine purple color will look great with red and ivory. Very Tuscan. Plus, your FI and his mother are poeple and not decor. they do not have to match the tablecloths or flowrers or anything else you have going on.
Post # 8
We are doing purple and grey with some red accents. Mostly the flowers, but I think as long as you go with the right shades it looks nice (and not red hat ladies).
This is one of my inspiration pictures, but I’ll have less of the lighter purple in there.