Post # 1
I’ve worked full time in my chosen career for a some time now (over 5 years) but have always been a server on and off as a secondary part-time gig for extra money. I quit my last serving job about 6 months ago, so I could focus on the wedding/being married. I always told myself that once I was married I would never go back to serving tables!
Boy was I wrong! Now that the wedding is over, we have some debt to pay off (I hate having debt) and it feels like we are living paycheque to paycheque even though we both have pretty decent salaries. So here I am, going for 2 interviews this week at local restaurants. I’m not happy about it but feel that its what needs to be done in order to pay this debt off quickly. DH is also picking up some OT if its available.
Has anyone else had to do this in order to get ahead? I feel embarrassed that we are in this position and I haven’t told any friends that I am picking up a second job. It’s not like we are struggling to pay bills…I just hate having no money left over for savings, etc.
Post # 3
@MrsBananas: Why on earth would that be embarrassing? Paying off debt quickly is a good thing!
Post # 4
I work two jobs and I probably will continue doing so until we have children. I like being ahead.
Post # 5
Paying off debt is good!
However, if you both have decent salaries, and you’re not sure WHY you have this debt or are living paycheck to paycheck, I think you two need to sit down and do some serious budget analysis to see where your money going!
I have never entertained getting a second job. We make sure we spend less than what we make and live modestly – but I know even that does not work for all situations.
Post # 6
@mimi123: I know its the smart thing to do & I’m only embarassed because I said I wouldn’t do it again. I’m kinda eating my words. Just looking for support from bees that also work 2 jobs.
And I agree with you @arsing89: Being ahead is awesome, hence why I miss the extra cash the second job brought it.
Post # 7
i think it’s a much better use of your time to be working that to focusing on “being married”. being married it’s not an activity, it’s a circumstance! go get some work done and pay off that debt and be proud of yourself!
Post # 8
@MrsBananas: I have had two jobs since the day I moved out of my parents house. It’s not a big deal.
Post # 9
@MrsBananas: I wouldn’t be embarrased it shows maturity and a commitment to the larger things like not being in debt! Don’t be embarassed about going back to something you’ve said you’d never do again, I think many of us have done that before. It’s honest decent work and paying off debt is a good thing.
Post # 10
@MrsBananas: I worked many jobs all through my undergrad and graduate degrees. There is no shame in it, I was just doing what I had to do.
I wouldn’t want to do it now but I absolutely would if my man and I decided we need the extra cash. I may not tell folks about it either because it’s none of their business but just know for yourself that you are being a responsible adult. The money is clean and you are doing what needs to be done for your family. Good for you! Be proud, not embarassed.
Post # 11
I dont think there is any reason you should be embarassed! A lot of people work two jobs. I worked two jobs for 6 years…and actually had 3 jobs for a while to. You have to do what you have to do to get ahead. It sucks at the time, but being able to get out of debt and able to support yourself is important! If you don’t want to tell people, you don’t have to…but you definitely shouldn’t be embarassed by it.
Post # 12
I have had multiple jobs for as long as I can remember! This is the first time in my life where i feel like I can spend relatively freely without worrying too much, at this point I’m only working my other job casually to help out a family member so I dont NEED the extra income at the moment (though I’m sure it’ll come in hande if/when we move!). I dont think you should feel bad though! I know it sucks to say you’ll never have to do that again, and you dont HAVE to. But its the responsible thing to pick up another job and get your debt paid off quick, good for you!
Post # 13
I feel your pain. Before my current job, I had to work 60 hours a week at 2 jobs to stay afloat. It sucked, the end.
When I was in college, I worked 2 jobs, took 18 credits, pledged a fraternity and worked backstage on 2 plays one semester. I have no idea how in the world I managed that juggling act.
Post # 14
@MrsBananas: …nothing wrong with working….as many jobs as you need to in order to make ends meet.
I’ve always worked my day job full time…but I’ve been known to work in a jewelry store, a coffee shop and even as a bartender to get thing paid.
Post # 15
Well, I’m actually getting a contract (2nd salary) even though I receive quite a decent salary for my studies already (scholarship). The extra money will only serve for savings for our wedding in a year and a half. If I use my regular budget (1 salary) for this, I would have had to take credit for the wedding and I don’t really want to do that, plus I want a nice honeymoon in Europe, so I needed those extra thousands to make it happen.
Post # 16
@MrsBananas: I have two jobs… and am thinking about possibly a 3rd, actually a waitressing job! Nothing like quick, easy money for when in debt!!!