Post # 1
Hi Bees (waves),
I know some of you may find this post selfish, others may sympathize. At this point I am just trying not to be a total spaz and loose my mind.
For those nesting Bee’s you may remember my original post Pregnant but not yet a Mrs. where I dished about being pregant and having anxiety and some lovely ladies gave me comfort. Well that was until I found out how far along I am.
Drum roll please…….
I am six weeks today! Hooray for six weeks right ! Yea me not so much! I feel blessed honored and truly in awe of the miracle inside me but when my wedding date comes around I will be about 6 months.
I would love to say I come from a family of ladies who don’t show until they are 7 or 8 months but its not true. The women in my family arent svelte they are not lean; we tend to be plus size, with hips and thighs for miles. We stretch and show all signs of pregnancy around the 4th month!
At this point I am in total try not to freak myself out panic. I just made my lovely bridesmaids buy dresses. I never invisioned having to wear my beautiful dress with a large (yet beautiful) bump protruding from it. Yes it may sound selfish but I wanted my bridal pictures to be of me looking slim hugging all my curves not my wonderful baby bump!
Im pretty scared and freaked out and wonderful FI is so lost in translation of it all! I am also struggling with weather or not I want to tell everyone because I wanted to enjoy my wedding and them my pregnancy as two different entities! How do I do this at 6 months? My only long shot of a hope is that I dont get to shapely?! (I doubt it)! but im wishing on a star lol!
Again I know I am truly blessed I am so in awe at this feate of nature but, I am also human. I had a plan and its not going to work now and yea- at this point I am just trying to keep it together!
Post # 3
First of all congrats! Soo exciting!
Here’s a thought -maybe you can purchase a dress that’s more princess-y with a fuller skirt or an empire waist – then you don’t have to worry about not having a dress that fits on your wedding day.
If you can wear your original on you wedding then that’s great. If you can’t, then once you’ve had the baby and adjusted to Mommy-hood – do a photoshoot in your original dress. Then you’d still have pics of you looking all awesome in it. Even do some with you new baby too because those could be cute as well.
Post # 4
Well, you might not look very pregnant at 6 mos. If it were your 2nd baby to bee, that would be another thing altogether, but the first one does not pop as much as your second baby. My daughter is tiny and she hid her second pregnancy pretty well up to about seven months, (she is now 8 months along with her second daughter) She was married last summer – so i don’t know why she chose to hide her pregnancy as long as possible this time, lol. So depending on the style of gown, or maybe some slight of hand magic from your seamstress or both, it may still not be obvious. (BTW-You can always share photos with us). Again, congratulations, and ENJOY you and FI’s own little miracle! Hugs. 🙂 Rhonda
Post # 5
Aww! Congratulations! First off, I think that everything will be fine. For now, you’re still in the surprise and shock phase, but it will slowly fade and by then you’ll be able to fully process everything.
I think you need to start combining the wedding and baby festivities together because that’s how it will be. And it will be wonderful! A little different from what you anticipated, yet wonderful!
Post # 6
Awww… I’m sorry this is a stressful point for you. It’s a lot to take in, I know!
The way I see it, there are a couple of options. Could you move your wedding up two months? I know it would be a rush, but the lovely lady I told you about in our last thread did that very thing to ensure a “it’s all about the couple, not the baby” wedding.
If that’s not an option, could you find a dress that you would feel equally beautiful in but that would accomodate the possibility of a baby belly? I agree that at 24 weeks most people are showing at least a little bit– probably less than you think, but still. Really at 24 weeks people generally have a little bump, but not a very big one.
Regardless, however you decide to do things will be fabulous… even if it means balancing multiple types of blessings!
Post # 7
I’ll chime in and say I’m 6 months right now. I’m definitely not one of those who just looks like I have a basketball out front 🙂 I have my baby bump and fuller hips and legs – oh and the massive boobs. I’ll tell you though I’m feeling the best (physically) I have during my pregnancy and loving the changes in my body. I wear tight clothes because I love showing off my baby shape… but if I chose to I could probably hide it somewhat.
You will be a beautiful bride 🙂
Post # 8
First off, congratulations on your pregnancy! With or without the baby bump, you will be a fabulous bride and mother too!
Like you, the females in my family do not stay small when they are pregnant. I am in a similar “situation” as Jillian as I grew a baby bump early along with fuller hips, thighs and boobs and this is my first child. I was easily showing before 20 weeks. I have had my sad moments thinking about my body changes but I have grown to love and accept them (at least while I am pregnant).
My only suggestion is to see how you are progressing during your pregnancy. You will see whether you will be showing or not fairly early on. If you take great care of yourself by eating healthy and exercising even if it is just walking for 30 mins you may be able to not show as much. Also, they have beautiful dresses that can work wonders for you and your pregnant body if you should happen to show early on. Don’t stress too much about it.
Post # 9
I’m 24 weeks this week, so to give you an idea…I went from 34DD to 36F already, and my bump has now moved to being further out than my chest. I hope you find a solution that makes you happy.
Post # 10
THANKS LADIES! I TRUELY APPRECIATE ALLL THE LOVE AND SUGGESTIONS!