Post # 1
I’m not the kind of girl that has gobs of friends, I kind of just mingle with a handful of girls. My bestfriends have all gotten married had kids and moved states away. It’s been 7 years since I’ve seen my bestfriend through highschool. Kind of sad, my ex-husband ran them all away and after the divorce I wasn’t able to find them *insert tears* yadda yadda, not really as sad and pathetic as it sounds, really it’s not.
Now I’m not sure how or who to pick for BM’s, I know who I’d love for my Maid/Matron of Honor to be!
So how do you ask girls that you don’t know extremely well to share one of the happiest adventures of your life with?
Fiance will have 5 Groomsmen, most married. I wonder if I should ask their wives to be my BM’s, we are friends. Would that be weird?
Post # 3
Don’t ask people that don’t mean something to you. You will regret it. You do not need even sides. Choose someone you’re close to – a sister, cousin, co-worker? There has to be someone you hang out with or are friends with. Please don’t ask people you don’t really know to be in the wedding just to have even sides =(.
Post # 4
I agree with Shaydenise, pick people who mean something to you – even if the sides aren’t even.
Post # 5
I agree that you should only ask people that you are close with. After reading these boards, it seems that being a bridesmaid can stir up all kinds of issues, even if the people are good friends already. Just think of who you feel closest with and who you think will be there for you in the future. You don’t need to have a whole army of bridesmaids- it’s better to just have one or two ladies who really support you.
Post # 6
pick your Maid/Matron of Honor and have his guys split up and stand on either side of you guys..who cares about numbers. don’t pick just to pick.
Post # 7
I don’t have a lot of female friends, and my child hood best friend probably won’t even come. So I think what I’m going to do is have my best guy friend be my Man of Honor, and my sisters and then a cousin my b/f is really close to (basically is like a sibling) However, what I think is pretty cool is that the groomsmen are all good friends of mine. So what we’re gong to do is not have bridesmaid and groomsmen, but just have a big bridal party. During the ceremony we’re going to mix the guys and girls.
Post # 8
Does your Fiance have sisters? If so, it would be great to ask them if you generally like them. It’s such a great way to recognizing your future family and including them in the wedding.
If not, as others have said, only pick people that mean something to you. I started with three BMs (including MOH) and was down to two when one got a serious illness before the wedding. I didn’t replace her because no one meant as much to be as she did. I was SO happy to have two beautiful girls on my side that meant the world to me.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t pick just to pick, we’re all friends, just not close close friends, kwim?
I’m an only child, and my cousin who I’d love to be my Maid/Matron of Honor lives in New York (I’m in Oregon). My FI’s brother passed away 4 years ago, he was married with kids, I’d like to have his wife as a Bridesmaid or Best Man too.