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Long story short: boy meets girl, boy falls in love but dumps the girl and the girl ends up marrying his cousin.

This is why my ex hates me and isn't over me and still talks about me and tries to get ahold of me.

Today I got an email that a snapfish account had been created and I didn't make it. I tried to get the account deleted and customer service said it was, but it's not. They were not much help.

I discovered also my ebay was totally changed, number one being my email address. I went through the questions you have to answer to change it and they were hard and only people who were close to me would know.

The Ip is from his town.

I think it's him?!

Previously he has cyberharassed me through etsy and cyberstalks me, adding me at all social networking sites.

SIL thinks I should maybe press charges? I don't know if that is possible.

Ughh

@AmeliaBedelia:  So I should contact the police tomorrow?

@BerryBerry:  Oh while I was changing one of the passwords/email on something (ebay i think) they displayed who last changed it.

Thanks everybody. I did change all my passwords and stuff to even harder ones (I had decent ones already).

Unfortunately DH can't do anything right now because he's at Navy basic training :( 7ish more weeks

Okay I'm bumping this because you bees have suggested I involve the police. I don't know if it's worth it because he is family and it would just break the family up (if it's him) and I would cause "strife" in the family just like he said that I would before I married DH...even though he would be the one harassing me, everything would get blamed on me. I know this because after I started dating DH (awhile after the ex dumped ME) the ex's mother started posting mean things on my facebook through her daughter's account. And all of our mutual friends turned on me and I do not talk to them this day.

I get that it sucks that I started dating your cousin, but it wasn't immediately after you broke up with me and, oh yeah YOU BROkE UP WITH ME. 
Why does everyone just take his side even though he is the one giving me trouble?

I didn't want to mention this, but he was texting me one night telling me what a horrible person I was and that I should die so I tried to overdose. I was in the hospital for about a week.

I just want him to leave me alone and get over it.... :( 

@Pinksapphire:  I won't know if DH is on the same page until he gets to call me or he responds to me letters (can be weeks) :(

@abirdword:  no it was soon after it happened, two years ago, it's not even on the phone I have now.

@Jenniphyr:  Well I have him blocked everyway I can (phone, social networking sites, etsy), I DON'T want him in my life. He is not in my life. I didn't go to family Christmas so I wouldn't have to see him and frankly I don't think I ever will go if he is going to be there.

@bakerella:  I was in such a panic, I don't have much evidence because I changed everything. But I have the email that says they joined snapfish and can't access the IP anymore, so I'm not sure what the whole thing is, just the first three numbers. I worry that it wouldn't be enough to file a report or anything.

@Jenniphyr:  yeah, I read it wrong I am just so upset, sorry. I can't just not deal with his entire family because I married DH. Even if my ex won't be at events, the family will. I can't not go to all the family events and do that to DH. I don't consider them in my life anyways, except DH's mom and grandma and sister. Ex's mom was invited to the wedding because DH's mom wanted her there, but I did not talk to her. 

I don't really know how to explain the situation to you and I don't know what your situation is like or what you perceive as okay or normal.

Bottom line: I don't want them in my life but they have to be because of my marriage. For DH.

@Jenniphyr:  Oh well, thank you. I appreciate your concern. I wish I could talk to DH about this and see what he thinks :(

I really appreciate all of your responses. 

I don't really know what to say, because I talked to my parents last night about it and they want me to wait until if something else happens, and they are worried that my ex will get even crazier if we do something.

I really don't have much proof, either.

With that said, we are taking extra precautions online and in real life (having doors locked always, etc.)

Yeah, I'm scared of what he could do. But I am also afraid of alienating DH's family. Even DH's mom, who I am fairly close with, didn't stand up for me or take my side in the past, because  the ex is her nephew. This family really believes that you have to be on the side of your family member, no matter what. I just couldn't stand if they all hated me, and DH wouldn't like it either. He always wants me to go to family things with him and gets upset if I don't. He wants me to get along with his family. It's important to him.

I don't want to have to go to the police.

Again, thank you everyone.

I would definately have someone investigate and also speak to your hubby - you don't want to press charges and have him upset because at the end of the day it is his family. But I'd definately do something and fast!